Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

Team down...I repeat Team Down. :( Owen is on lock down at home today. His wife changed the school schedule and sadly he was not in charge. I'm really getting tired of her. (meant to be funny, but mostly serious as well...rude.) It's not like she's giving it to him, why make him (me) suffer too? I talked to Gavin last night and he told me that his dick is killing him. He said it's bruised and the scratch has yet to heal, so sadly I'm not getting any there either. I'm hoping he's better by Friday though!! I'm planning on some serious sex this weekend, although it will all have to be done around his kid. So I guess since I'm not getting any this morning...I better get my ass to work! -Jules

A quick addendum to yesterday’s post… Yesterday afternoon after my delightful lunch with the Giant Ginger, he texted me a couple funny and sweet messages.   He asked if I had plans for after work and I told him I had a softball game. A few texts later I found myself inviting him to the game and then to hang out at my place for a little while.   This is part of the “new” open, willing to take risks Miranda.   So he showed up for the game, which made me incredibly nervous as I played.   We chatted a little bit between innings and then he offered to carry my bat bag to my car for me after the game lol.   My sister in law plays on my team and we were talking after the game so he also got to meet her, which was weird and funny all at once. Afterwards we went back to my apartment and I jumped in the shower to take myself out of the jock version of Miranda and back into some semblance of my normal self.   We spent the next 3 hours on my deck talking about eve...

Ok a little of the old Miranda is coming out combined with the new Miranda.   Yes, I realize I’ve been talking about myself in the third person lately and yes, it’s weird.   HA! So in my last post I was talking about all the boys in the early stages of recruiting for Team Miranda.   There were quite a few I started out talking to (re: old Miranda – date them all approach) but I’ve narrowed it down to two front-runners (re: new Miranda – only date 1-2 at a time so she can actually learn to like someone specific).   Those players are McKing who’s still floating around and a new guy who’s going to be known as the Giant Ginger. So McKing has kind of been up and down.   I swear the days he has his daughter it’s like he goes MIA totally and completely.   Even when he’s working, he may send a text or two but that’s it.   Then bam – the daughter is gone and he’s blowing up my phone.   I’m not sure what this weird communication pattern is.   Hones...

Owen started texting me around 9:15am letting me know that he was working around the corner from my house. I told him that I was on Mom duty today and that unless his partner wanted to babysit, I wasn't free. :( He made a reference to fucking me over a jet ski in the supply closet and things went uber sexual from there! He sent me a pic and told me how hot he was for me and I sent him a text back telling him that I was going to masturbate with my glass toy in the shower. He suggested he meet me in my driveway and again I declined b/c mini me was home. We discussed options while he was requesting pictures of me with beads in my ass and a toy in my kitty and eventually we came around to him pulling up to my neighborhood and me running up to meet him for a quickie while Chloe was glued to the TV. Go ahead and judge...whatever. ;) I put Chloe in front of the TV and walked to the trash (my excuse for leaving) and his van with anal beads in my ass prepping me for him (per my instruct...

I don't even know where to start this one. Gavin did not come over last night as it seemed he sensed my vibe. He's called me about 200 times today though and I told him he could come over for dinner. When I got home, I met him and we went shopping at the local supermarket for dinner. A few months ago, he met one of my new neighbors and helped her move in some stuff. He said she was pretty into him, but she's not his type at all so it was totally one way. I didn't think about it again, until she saw him in the market and they started conversing. She looked at me with much question as he introduced us and a few minutes into the convo she looked at me again and asked him if he was still living with "Julie" or "Melissa" or whatever his gf's name is up at Sunset. He stumbled along and said "Well, sort of but uh not really. She's going to the mainland every 2 weeks and we're kinda whatever, mostly over I guess"...awkward pause, side g...

Well I cleared the house on my end...Russell at work, Gavin blown off, Chloe at a sleepover...moments of silence have now descended blissfully on my house. That silence was just interrupted by a series of texts from Owen saying that there is full on drama at his house between his wife and daughter and he has to go straight home to deal with that after he gets off. No super hot, nasty sex for us tonight. I know I could call Gavin over for some, but honestly I am RELISHING in this moment of silence at my house and I'm glued to the TV watching hurricane coverage with a huge glass of wine....ahhhhhh. I told Owen clearly it wasn't our day. The universe (or more precisely his wife) thwarted both attempts to hook up today. I'm taking it as a sign, like maybe I avoided a pregnancy or something! -Jules PS I hit send and Gavin called. He asked if I was busy and said that he sensed in my energy earlier that I had other plans tonight.Sometimes he really is perceptive, other times ...

Gavin came over last night and we hung out. No sex, just hanging. The reason for the no sex thing was simply b/c we drank enough to float a boat and passed out in different rooms. Initially, I was on the couch and he as in my bed. At 1:45am, we switched and I went to my bed and he went to the guest room. I left him sleeping in the guest room this morning when I went to work, but I was kind enough to make him coffee. It was kind of nice just hanging out with him too. I’m still frustrated by his continuous complaining about his life and the gf, but his unwillingness to change any of it. It’s starting to wear thin, but ultimately he’s fun for now (mostly). I woke up to my alarm at 6:45am and hit snooze as I am apt to do every morning. A few minutes later, I received a text. Owen said “Good Morning! Do you have time to play with me today?” Um, yeah I’ll make some time!! We sexted for a good 45 minutes while I got ready and then I headed to our spot since Gavin and Russell were at my house...

Well yesterday was a slutty, sex filled wonderland! It started with Owen. He had texted me Tuesday night when I was in class asking me if I was in town and if we could meet up since he was hanging out waiting out traffic. Sadly, we were unable to hook up because of the length of class but we did plan for the following morning! He came over bright and early after dropping the kids at their respective schools and told me to roll over into my favorite position. He crawled into bed and laid on top of me, kissing me, and slipping a finger into me. I was already very ready and he rubbed his hard cock all around my girly parts before entering me. That initial moment when he enters me is one of my favorite parts of sex. It always takes me breath away for a second. He gave me sooooo many orgasms, all while talking very dirty to me. I love when he stops moving and tells me to fuck that cock. It turns me on so much! I was so wet and then he said he wanted to fuck my tight little ass. He said he...

Holy hellzbola.  After my whiny “I’m tired and ready to go to Hawaii” post yesterday it’s like a huge blinking light must have went off above my head signaling to the boys that they need to step their game up. Last night I logged on to both Plenty of Fish (aka Land of Lots of Losers) and OkCupid.  Plenty of Fish had a crap ton of guys (re: losers) who had messaged me including a very cute country boy.  I spoke with him briefly on the phone and he seems nice but I’m not sure there’s much going on up top.  And by that, I mean in his head, not on his head.  Why do I attract so many country boys?  Maybe I need to just give it up and become a white trash woman. OkCupid was on overload with a ton of cute, (seemingly) normal, (seemingly) smart guys who had messaged me including the proverbial Jewish doctor.  Somewhere a Jewish mom’s heart just broke at the idea that a Shiska could be taking one of the rare finds.  I’ve been exchanging emails with sev...

Yesterday after seeing like 50 billion ads for it, I checked out this other online site – Okcupid.com.  It’s far less used than Plenty of Fish, or Zoosk, or any of the other free ones but there do seem to be a different array of guys on there.  Guys who actually put some effort into filling out their profile.  I set up a quick profile just to see what happens because if I don’t, y’all are going to get bored of Miranda pretty quick.  That being said, I feel like all this boy stuff is exhausting.  Just getting the email notifications that I have a new message or someone has “favorited” me is exhausting.  How did I do this for so long last summer?  Maybe my reserves are just depleted. Even McKing is weirding me out now.  He has been cool but suddenly seems distant.  And I feel weird that both Gwyn and I remember him wearing a wedding ring last year when we first saw him even though he swears he was not.  If it had just been one of us rem...

This about sums up my life. I am so happy that August is almost over, I don’t know what to do with myself. I’ve had enough. So Friday’s van romp resulted in another sex injury. I’m 99% sure that the last sex injury was caused by the same position. We’re going to have to change that up a bit…seems Jules isn’t as flexible as she thought! It did score me some muscle relaxers though. It was a fairly quiet weekend around here. Last night hopped up on some muscle relaxers and wine (because I share nicely), Russell revealed to me that he’s passed up 2 huge promotions in the past few months in order to stay here and do this thing with me until I finish college. I was speechless. We’ve had numerous conversations lately about his career and how much he hates being 40 and living pay check to pay check (the cost of living in paradise if you ask me) and such. I was literally floored. I told him that I thought we should have talked about it because I could have worked something out had I known and ...

I am so pissed at myself right now.   Last night was supposed to be my third date with McKing that would have hopefully been sealed with a kiss.   Unfortunately, his mom was supposed to babysit for him and she cancelled thus resulting in our date being cancelled.   I understand I do, but I also feel a little frustrated.   Didn’t I just tell Gwyn last week that I wasn’t sure I wanted to date a guy with kids again? So anyways I had told my friend D that I’d go out with her before I’d ever scheduled the date with McKing. Naturally I’d already cancelled on her so I was content to stay home and have a Mad Men marathon. About 10:15 she texted me asking what I was doing. I told her my plans had been cancelled so I was just chilling at home.   She begged me to come out and by that point in the evening I was a little bored with my own company so I threw on some clothes and headed off.   We immediately got on the dance floor and danced our butts off.   I fe...

Thank you Eden Fantasy for the amazing new toy! I received my pretty pink Decadence G-spot vibe last week and ripped open the package immediately. I had to wait a few hours for some alone time, but I got right down to business as quickly as possible!! As soon as everyone was in their respective beds, I hopped onto mine and opened this up. It's so cute and small and comes with it's own little plastic case. This makes it perfect for carrying discreetly in your purse. I was initially surprised by the small size. We all know Jules loves big things, but holy crap this thing is super powerful. I cannot for the life of me make myself squirt with a toy. I've decided it's physically impossible for me, but this toy did make me soak it in cum. I finished after 3 really strong orgasms and it was dripping. Thankfully one of it's amazing features is that it's waterproof!! I met up with Owen today and told him I was bringing my new toy! He loves things that stimulate my ...

Whoa, what a day! I woke up leisurely this morning because it's a state holiday here. Daniel and I have continued to text/talk like crazy and decided to go to the beach together today for a few hours. I knew it would be time limited because I had plans with a gf tonight, which is kind of how I like 1st dates to roll so that there's an out. He sent me a text first thing this morning confirming and then later I sent him one saying that I was running a little late and as it turns out he was too. My initial plan was to make us lunch, so I needed extra time to prep it. That plan was quickly aborted. Owen sent me a text right after I sent Daniel one about being late and asked if I was free today at all. I  told him I could see him immediately or at like 2pm. He said immediately worked for him and we planned to meet 10 minutes later. He was working close to my house today, but since Russell was home we had to meet in his van. Van sex always makes me feel young and vibrant, like a te...

From Coach on Monday… I wanted to try and explain how I started getting so distant before we broke up.  You said you didn't doubt that I loved you, well you are wrong I am still in love with you.  I know that for a fact now.  Anyway I started getting distant a couple of months ago because I wanted to move our relationship to the next level but when I thought about it I kept thinking that how could we get engaged or plan a future when I didn't know how long I would be up here.  I also felt like I almost duped you in the beginning of our relationship and I knew you kind of felt that way too.  One of the reasons I came up here is because of my DUI and assault convictions a couple years ago.  All the work that I was getting in NC was contract work because of that misdemeanor assault charge, even though I never threw a punch that night.  Anyway, I came up here to up my experience in my field and become such an expert that some company in that area would ove...

I swear to God I had no sooner hit send, then Gavin came over. He came up on his bike and knocked on my wall, which of course brought Chloe out of her room. I didn't get up to let him in. I don't know if she did or if he used his key. It's hotter than hell here right now, so I was laid out naked on my bed. It wasn't sexual, it was necessity. He comes over to me all smiling. He was high and I was annoyed. It's PMS week and when it's this week I am an irritable bitch. I said something like "Hmmm, another country heard from". He was all like "What?" b/c naturally it went over his head. I asked what was up and he said he's been really busy and that he hasn't called because his phone is cut off. I told him I didn't like the way things are right now. He said they are fine, we're fine. I don't know that I want "fine". I just laid here watching a show and he laid beside me and starting sucking my tits. I told him to qu...

I really try to avoid this activity immensely, but in light of the Gavin situation I’ve needed to do some.    There is no news on that front. We have talked once briefly on the phone since I saw him Saturday night. In a way, I almost feel like that was a goodbye fuck. I mean it’s not goodbye. He still has all of his shit in my house and I think we have this connection that will probably go on as long as I/we allow it, but things have changed. I said something that I don’t think I truly meant out of jealousy and I think it’s totally freaked him out. He clearly has feelings for me, but he’s obviously still in love with the gf too and so he’s backed off of his daily contact and I’ve let him. I need space, as it seems he does as well. I know he’s unhealthy for me. He’s an addict. My dad is an addict. I am a social worker working on my CSAC, so I know deep down that I could never, ever expose Chloe to this and be in a normal relationship with him. It’s time to move forward, but it...

I've always wondered what people mean when they say "when I met him/her I just knew". I, for one, have never had that experience before. I've met guys I'm instantly attracted to and have strong chemistry with but I've never had that "this could be the one" feeling. "This could be the one I have sex with tonight", sure I've had that feeling - or even, "This could be the one to get me over the last one." But "this could be the one I spend my life with", nope. That has all changed after 'meeting' McDreamy. And yes Jules and Miranda I realize I haven't actually 'met' him yet - luckily for the blog you two will get to witness that first meeting in exactly 3 weeks! As you all know, Gwyn isn't exactly the lovey dovey mushy type. Who am I kidding - I'm not even anywhere close to that type. When it comes to love I'm a glass is half empty type of gal. I like to call it realistic. Miranda likes...

Well I certainly didn’t expect it to happen so soon but Miranda’s smitten yall.   The date I mentioned in my last post, well it turned into two dates in one day and a third is being planned as I type this. Here’s the good stuff. He’s 38, divorced, 1 kid (a 6 year old daughter),   6’2, brown hair, brown eyes, brown skin lol, he’s in law enforcement, he grew up in the mountains here, he was in the military for a few years, he’s got awesome manners and seems to be very much a gentleman, and he seems to kind of all around be an awesome guy. Oh and his name is so amazing. It’s killing me to not be able to tell yall. I have thus named him….McKing in honor of Gwyn’s funny likeness of his name as Checkers McKing. So McKing   messaged me on Plenty of Fish several days ago and I was impressed by his ability to spell correctly and actually have something of substance to say rather than, “Hey you’re cute,” or “Hey message me if you want to talk,” so I responded.   That led ...

1. What ’80s or ’90s fashion did you love but would be embarrassed to wear today, even if it came back in style?   Well apparently I had a big thing for sunflowers in the 90s. This past weekend I was showing Chloe a bunch of old pictures in which I had on multiple sunflower items to include short shorts and a halter. I was informed by my 8 year old that I should never, ever in life wear those things out in public ever again. - Jules I remember your sunflowers Jules!  I had a horrible year where I was into wearing mens' button down shirts and vests. Bad bad Blossom induced affliction.  That and I was all about beating my stick straight hair into curls via many, many perms.   - Miranda Peace Frogs. Jams. Duckheads. Braided belts. The list could go on forever....-Gwyn  2. What current fashion do you wear and love? Or What current fashion do you wear but probably shouldn’t?   I live in tank tops and shorts when I'm not working. Russell works for a clothing...