Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

So Duckie told me he has questioned whether or not I'm having an affair. Which obviously dear blog readers I am, the kicker is he thinks if I'm having one it is with my boss. Because having an affair with the boss is so freaking smart, not that having an affair with the next door neighbor is much better but still. Now I have made a few affair errors in the last few months which I will share at another time but here are his reasons for suspicion as it stands: 1 - If I'm not having sex with him, I must be having it somewhere. Now the irony is that in our marriage, IF we had sex once a month that was a banner freaking month for us. So why would he think I was this highly sexual person who had to be having sex? The reality is I'm rediscovering that I am that same highly sexual girl I was back before him. Apparently all these years he's just killed my sex drive. 2 - I own and wore a thong. Just one. Years ago I tried wearing them and just didn't like it. Now I...

Being in the midst of negotiating a separation - not being able to say how much of a punk you think the other person is being. Not being able to say, "look I know I have hurt you terribly but would you just shut the fuck up already! Let's just get out of this as quickly as possible you big puss! Being in the midst of a torrid affair - Having to keep it a secret! Even if you tell your friends about it, the vast majority don't want to hear any details. Part of the great fun of a relationship is discussing it with your girlfriends! When you can't do that, it sucks! Being in my house tonight - not nearly enough wine to quell the inner demons... Miranda