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Saturday, November 9, 2013

Long overdue update

It's been ages since our last post. I'm not sure that anyone even checks in here anymore. At any rate if you're curious.....

Jules married the fisherman this fall! They had a gorgeous wedding and are happily moving forward in their new life.

Gwyn recently eloped with the most amazing boyfriend ever (now husband - it was a guy she met right about the time she dropped off the blog) and she's got a bun in the oven now! Yep hitched and barefoot and pregnant. And deliriously happy.

As for me, Miranda, the one most yearning for the happy ending, well I'm still working on it. Peabody and I had a very surprising and hard break up in late spring. I spent the summer very depressed, attempting to move on and briefly dating a friend of his. In the late summer we reconnected and he asked for a second chance. After much discussion, I agreed to give him one. The summer without him was truly awful. There were a lot of dark days but it was also very much a time of needed growth for me. Time to finish processing a lot of internal emotions. We have steadily been moving forward the last few months and he continues to try hard to be what I need.

As for what the future holds...well I'm still an eternal optimist and romantic but I definitely have built up a wall that's going to take time to tear back down.  I'll try to pop back in and let you know what happens. Much love to everyone out there!

Miranda

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Totally random musing for the day…


Earlier I was thinking about Duckie and what a dipshit he is. Note, recently we battled over child support because his pay has increased and mine has remained flat the last few years and he didn’t deserve (according to state guidelines) what he wanted. Yes, I pay him child support (and I just finished three years of alimony) all because he is a slacker who was content to sit back and work low end jobs and never try to improve his career until I left him. Note again – I won the child support disagreement by the way.  I digress.

Anyways I was thinking about that whole situation and for some reason started to reflect on my decision to leave him. I can remember after I first told him we had a problem and I didn’t have any feelings towards him anymore. I spent much of the next six weeks wading through my grief over my dad’s suicide and mulling over what exactly I WAS feeling.  I can remember creeping around the idea of divorce.
  • Grieving for the idea of the kids having to deal with us splitting on the heals of their grandfather’s death.
  • Being scared to deal thinking about the legal implications of what I was tip toeing around.
  • Being mad at myself for even contemplating the idea.
  • Being annoyed at how Duckie couldn’t leave me alone as I requested time and time again.
  • Being terrified of telling my family what I was thinking about and how they would react.

And oddly I remember somewhere deep down inside being exhilarated at the opportunity to start over, to be done with Duckie, to stop having to carry the weight of him on my shoulders, to not have to baby him along anymore and a million other things that would be better without him in my life.

I know that sounds callous, but it was a very authentic feeling.  My life has certainly had it’s challenges over the last three years and there have been plenty of times I wished I wasn’t alone, that I had a partner to lean on during the hard periods.  But without a doubt, my life has been so much better, so much more fulfilling, so much more filled with growth and exploration and the discovery of a whole new Miranda.

I don’t know that I even could have comprehended how much I’d have changed in such a short period of time.

Miranda

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Moving Forward


Ever had a moment that stopped you in your tracks and you just knew it was what you’d always dreamed about, that you were in exactly the right place at the right time?  I’ve had more than a few of those with Peabody and another really great one last night.

He asked me to come over for dinner and we were just hanging out at his house. He was grilling and we were drinking wine listening to some of our favorite music.  We talked all through dinner and cleaning up and ended up sitting in his living room laughing and talking for another hour while we reminisced over our recent amazing trip to Hawaii. 

His favorite book is On the Road by Jack Kerouac.  He’s been after me to read it and I just haven’t had time yet.  Peabody told me he had something different for us to do and asked me if I’d ever listened to a book on tape. I told him I hadn’t and he said he’d been planning to read the book to me (omg read the book to me!!  My inner nerd is still doing a full out swoon) but thanks to an eye infection he’s been dealing with that was sidetracked and he’d downloaded the audio book to his iPad. 

We ended up listening to about an hour of the book while we lay on the couch and somewhere in that hour I was infused with such happiness and peace.  I thought to myself, this is one of those moments I will always remember.  In that moment, everything felt like what I imagined my life would be like when I was a kid.  It’s hard to capture the moment in words but it was definitely one of those moments that give you pause and make you very thankful.

In other news, our trip to Hawaii was AMAZING. I cannot say enough about how great it was and what a defining moment in our relationship it was.  We certainly found out we are great traveling partners which is good because we both want to travel a lot in the coming years.  It was so great to see the girls and meet the Fisherman and Gwyn’s man.  It was just a really, really good trip.

Since we’re terrible at updating the blog these days I’ll take the liberty to tell you if you haven’t followed us on Facebook, Jules and the Fisherman are getting hitched come September. Yep, Jules the girl who was so not interested in commitment has been totally swept off her feet and she’s going to be the first one of us to take the plunge.  It was quite a sight to see Jules all giggly and lovely dovey I have to say.  Seeing how happy she is makes me so incredibly happy for her!

Gwyn and her man are just so incredible together.  You all know Gwyn is tough and I think this guy is just the right fit for her.  I was very impressed with him and so was Peabody.  He is a super star in the boyfriend Olympics helping her out, putting up with all of us, and hell he even sent her mom an edible arrangement for Valentine’s Day. Yep, he definitely seems to be a keeper!

Times are quite good for us girls right now.  I’m even taking the first steps to finally go back to school to get my nursing degree.  Big things are happening for all of us right now! I think we’re at a point where we need to decided the future of this blog since we’ve obviously changed track with it in the last six months.  I guess we need to decide to either start a new chapter or if it’s time to finally close this book …

Miranda  

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Sometimes Its Hilarious to Be a Girl


Tomorrow Peabody and I leave for our Hawaiian adventure and I can’t believe it’s finally here!  I am so excited to get back to Hawaii and see the girls and meet each other’s menfolk.  It’s so random and crazy that after a wild three years we are all seemingly settled down and happy at the same time. 

Our trip is two-fold. Half the time we will be on Oahu with the girls and half the time we will be hiking/camping along the Napali coast on Kauai. I cannot freaking wait for either part!  I’ve camped quite a bit with Peabody now but this is going to be true ultralight backpacking over some rough terrain. I’m both excited and terrified and I think this trip is going to be a very significant moment in mine and Peabody’s relationship.

I’ve gotten the outdoors life down pat for the most part.  I’m not worried about being away from a shower for four days or not being able to truly wash my hair. I’m not worried about wearing dirty, sweaty clothes more than once or being make up free for that long. I’m not worried about the hiking or climbing or sleeping in a tent. I’m not even worried about bugs or wildlife or hell even if coping a squat in the woods should the need arise.   But I am worried about one thing. One thing that I’ve been obsessively thinking about. One thing that makes my skin crawl.  One thing that is quite frankly, torturing me a little bit…..

Not being able to shave my legs and arm pits!

Crazy I know!  Of all the things to worry about, but still. Technically I could try to shave at least once out there but with the dirt and sweat and all I just feel like it’s asking for an infection to pop up.  So I’m going to try to suck it up and be as hippie as Miranda can be while we are on Kauai.  We’ll see if I can take it.

See you tomorrow Gwyn and Jules!!!

Miranda

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Nerd Alert


An off topic post per the norm around here but I’m a nerd and I’m excited.  I work on the administrative side of a health care organization. One of my co-workers has been touting the benefits of standing at work for several months now. Ever since I heard his presentation I’ve been obsessed with the idea of creating a stand up desk and a couple weeks ago I finally did it.

After researching and talking to some other staff members who are making the transition I found this “life hack” and a way to create an inexpensive stand up desk.  I made a weekend trip to my local Ikea before Christmas and Peabody came up to my office one day and helped me put it all together and I freaking love it!  I’ve been standing for almost three weeks now and it’s changed my work life totally.

I don’t get that mid afternoon slump where you’re fighting sleep, I focus more when I’m working, I have a million times better posture, and the few aches and pains I’d have after sitting all day are completely gone.  
About the only time I sit down during the day now are during lunch or during meetings.  And consequently, because I’m standing all the rest of the time, I actually focus during meetings instead of day dreaming. 

There is tons of stuff on the web about the benefits of standing ranging from weight loss to lowered blood pressure/cholesterol to increased productivity. We have about 10 administrative staff members who have made the switch to standing now including someone in my own office who got hot on the idea after seeing me switch. Even Peabody is going to make the switch now!

If you have the opportunity and you can make it work in your work space you should do it! I love it!

Miranda

Monday, January 7, 2013

Counting Down


Life has been busy busy busy!  Peabody and I are just swimming along magnificently.  We had a great Christmas together and he loved his gifts. He totally surprised me with a Patagonia fleece pullover and a bunch of stuff for camping that I needed.  Funnily enough we both bought each other the exact same hard to find CD.  We had quite a laugh over that.

New Years we spent in the mountains of NC.  We explored some of his old stomping grounds and met up with one of mine and Gwyn’s friends and spent some time with her and her family.  We also took a detour to Hot Springs. It’s this tiny rustic town with a spa where you sit in private hot tubs facing the French Broad River and lounge around in the mineral water.  I don’t know about its restorative properties but it was an incredibly romantic moment in our relationship.  The blue sky, the gushing river, steam tendrils coming off the bubbling water in the FRIGID air.  It was about as perfect of a moment as you could get.

For the actual NYE some friends of ours met us and we went to dinner and then to see one of our favorite bands.  Afterwards much drunken fun ensued and needless to say, Miranda got to start her new year off with a bang. It was a wonderful three days that made me like Peabody even more than I already did before.

If you saw the post from a couple days ago you saw that we are going to Hawaii in February!  He and I had been kicking around the idea for about a month and it was coming down to the wire to work out the details and we bit the bullet.  We’ll be there most of the first two weeks of the month. We are going to spend a few days at chez’ Jules and then head to the next island over while the girls are stuck working.  We are going to camp and hike through Kauai and I cannot wait.  Peabody has camped his whole life and I camped a fair amount as a kid. Over the last couple years I’ve been really wanting to go again and I’ve been several times with Peabody now.  I can’t imagine how amazing it’s going to be to be immersed in the outdoors in my favorite place in the whole world. After a few days camping we are heading back to wrap up the week with the girls!

I can’t help but imagine countless romantic scenarios in the wilderness of Kauai.  HA! Sometimes I’m such a girl. When I was filling in the girls on our plans Jules asked what our status was.  We’ve been girlfriend/boyfriend almost since the beginning though we are both much more free introducing each other with those titles the last couple of months.  We still haven’t said the “l” word yet but I’ve felt like he’s been on the verge for a little while.  What better place to hear it for the first time than in Hawaii?

I cannot wait to take him there and see him fall in love with it the way we all have.  I really think he’s going to love it so much.  I do know he’s a little intimidated to meet the girls because he knows how much they mean to me. 

An “awww” moment for you, this weekend we were talking on the phone and filling out some stuff about camping in Hawaii – there’s paperwork you have to fill out and then there are all sorts of “meet up” groups of people hiking and camping.  One of the sites we both were on has us fill out a short profile and then link as friends.  When we accepted each other’s invitation to connect, we had to say how we knew each other and he wrote “She’s my best friend.”  Awwwww lol.  It was really sweet. 

24 days and counting till all my favorite people in the world are in one place!

Miranda

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Aloha

Me and Peabody are going to Hawaii in less than a month! We've been kicking around the idea for a while and between work and kids we weren't sure we could pull off a joint trip. I mean I planned to go regardless of if he could go or not lol but I was hoping he could work it out. And he did!

We will be with the girls the first two weeks of February and we are going to spend time there and hop to Kauai to spend a few days hiking and camping.  He is over the moon excited about going and I cannot wait to have all my favorite people in my favorite place in the world!

I can't wait for the girls to meet him!

Miranda