He used to order me to do things, like come to see him. It really wasn't a request. He would say things like "Get over here now". If I didn't, he would get angry but again I thought it was playful. I didn't see it for what it was, which was all about power and control. One time, I texted him something and he didn't like it. It was something confrontational. I can't remember now what it was, but he essentially told me that he would not stand for that type of discussion from me. Yep, I missed it. I'm NOT blaming myself for what happened last night at all. I'm just surprised that I misread him.
When I got home last night, I sent him an email telling him I had almost stopped to have a rape kit done and that what he did was totally unacceptable and that he sucks as a human being. He replied this " I wish you the best in the near future and it hurts to know you feel that way. I think very highly of you. Take care Jules." I told him that if he had respected me he never, ever would have done what he did to me and that I had only sent him this email to tell him how wrong his actions were. I explained that I never, ever wanted to see or hear from him again.