Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

I had an interesting day on Tuesday that both Miranda and Jules begged me to blog about so here it goes... Russell had the day off and I needed to go to Target to get some things for McDreamy's birthday. He told me that he was meeting a friend (aka booty call with an army boy) in town and that if I wanted I could drop him off and then take his car to Target and come back and pick him up. Beggars can't be choosers so I took him up on his offer. A little background - Russell had already seen this particular guy at least once (maybe twice) and had told me that he actually liked him and it was a shame he was moving back to Texas in the next couple of weeks. He's an army guy and I think like 32 or 33 years old. I hadn't seen a picture and didn't know anything about where the guy lived and what not. Just that he was an army nurse (I lol'd on that one please forgive me God) and a pretty cool guy. Back to Tuesday.....so we make the 30 minute trek into town and I f...

I'm sorry I bailed on HNT today. I had plans to make my body into a sundae for Owen's pleasure, but since the universe thwarted us yesterday, we had to meet today and I didn't want to stop on the way home to meet him to get supplies...so, ya'll get nothing from Jules this week...sorry. I'll probably do it at some point because the idea of him licking whip cream, cherries, and chocolate sauce off of my tits and stomach makes me dripping wet and when I do, I'll post a pic. We met up today at my house (finally) and he sexted with me all the way here from town. OMG, I was ready for him and he walked in and dropped his shorts and his hard cock indicated he was quite ready as well. He came over and rubbed my tits and watched me play with myself and then pushed his cock into me along with the glass toy I was using and told me to keep fucking myself with it. He pulled my legs over his shoulders and pounded me. (Miranda had our current FB status as her real status toda...

It's been a crazy few days in Jules' world, not crazy good either. I'm really pissed at Gavin...like super pissed at him. Sunday night, we hung out and ate dinner and had a great time. It was fun and he was funny. The rest of the week, not so much. Monday night he was at my house acting like the total drug seeking addict that he is and was doing so in front of Gwyn, Russell, and more importantly Chloe. WTF? I wasn't home, but when I got home he had just left and had hung up on me because I refused to give him $40. It was insane. He called me about 1 hour or 2 later and asked if he could come over. I asked why he'd left 10 minutes before I got home if he just wanted to come back. He said he'd had to take some weed to a friend and was ready to come back over. I'm leaving out chunks of the story, but it would just be too long...so this is the Reader's Digest version. On the way over, he called back to ask me to put on the strappy black dress and to be on ...

Finally, I got to see Owen yesterday!! It was super fast, hurried, frenzied sex with a funny run in afterwards. He had texted me in the morning to see if I could meet him around lunch time. Chloe was away as mentioned before b/c Gavin had come over (yep, totally whored it up yesterday and it was awesome!).    I had jumped in the shower to get ready to see him when 3 kids descended onto my house wanting to the go the beach.    I had to bail and told him I could do after 2pm when she was at a party or after he got off from work. He said after work was best for him and I promised to be available because Russell would be home and I needed to run to the store for dinner items. He texted me right before he was supposed to get off from work to tell me that the wife and kids had just left the beach and he’d tried to say he was going to the hardware store but the wife reminded him they close early on Sundays. I expressed my disappointment, but said that clearly the universe ...

So I’ve been having a shit ton of anxiety related dreams lately.  I’m sure all due to the changes in my job.  But I’ve also had quite a few that were about me being with guys and them asking me what I want and I can never answer in the dream. The most recently one involved SoCo and me at a Mexican resort of all places.  We were having weird freaky sex like we used (remember he liked me to bite his penis) to all over this resort, in front of people in the lobby, on the beach, in the bed, on a lounge chair by the pool, and then he got mad at me and said something to the effect of I was there in body but not spirit.  WTF?  I remember he asked me what exactly I wanted from him and I stood there trying to answer and I literally could not move my mouth.  So I picked up my beer and walked butt naked into the ocean presumably never to be heard from again. Yeah, crazy dream.  Clearly, Miranda’s in the midst of a mindfuck to borrow Jules’ terminology.  I...

I woke up at 7am to Gavin calling and asking if he could come over for coffee...thank god it meant fucking. I'm still totally jonesing for Owen, but he's the next best thing. He came over and crawled into bed with me. Chloe and Russell were both gone and Gwyn has pretty much moved in with McDreamy, so we had the house to ourselves. I was totally sleepy and not into full on acrobatic sex. I was laying on my stomach and he crawled on top of me and gave me some really awesome sex. I love getting it in my favorite position and he was feeling extra frisky, so it was great sex. Afterwards, he moved back into mindfucking though. We were laying in bed talking and he asked me if I was stoked he was there or what? I asked what he meant and he said he wanted to know if I was happy he was there or if I had moved back into just FWB thinking. I told him I was on the fence. I can't remember exactly what he said but you could tell he was responding based on what my reply had been. Gwyn p...

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Shocker - Miranda wastes a lot of time on the Internet. Can't help it.  Between the web and Facebook I've got a serious case of adult ADD. Especially now that I only have two weeks left at the job I detest.  That being said, Cracked.com is a favorite site of mine. It's a repository of funny, interesting, weird, and all around odd stuff. Today, I stumbled upon the mother load of holy hell I just fell out of my desk chair sex toys listed on there.  Take a moment to check this link out.  You'll be both intrigued, repulsed, horrified, and hell, probably oddly aroused all at the same time. Some of this stuff is insane!  http://www.cracked.com/article_16032_the-25-most-disturbing-sex-toys.html Miranda

Gavin annoyed the piss out of me today. He called me not once, but twice while I was at practicum to see if I could contact my neighbor so he could buy some weed. Dude, go fucking knock on the door...next door. That was my first annoyance, but it gets better. Then he tells me he's picking up his gf from the airport tonight and that she's home pretty much just for the weekend from CA and then I guess she's going back. Who knows or cares really? What I want to know is how in the hell someone with no job gets to travel this much? Anyway, I was not annoyed by this part but what super pissed me off was when he asked what I was doing this weekend and told me he had a friend I should hook up with. I snapped at him and told him that I did NOT need him to be in charge of my dating life, for real. I ended the call and was very abrupt and bitchy when he called the 2nd time regarding the weed. When I got home, I was leaving to go get Chloe and he was pulling in. I gave him a mumble...

I've officially been in Hawaii for 2 weeks as of yesterday. One whole week without Miranda has passed and I still wish she was here to enjoy everything I'm enjoying (well...not EVERYTHING lol) but I know 6 months will fly by and she'll be back in no time. Since Miranda has been gone I've been slowly settling in to my new life in paradise. McDreamy has been wonderful, minus a fight we had when Miranda was still here about driving me to town to meet her and Jules for dinner. His biggest flaw (and really the only downside I've discovered about him to this point) is that he gets agitated/annoyed/overwhelmed very easily. I think part of it is just his nature and his upbringing and part of it is a result of the time he spent in Iraq. In other words, I think it is his nature to be easily annoyed but fighting in the war just intensified it. We made up (aka he realized he was being an a-hole and apologized) and since then we haven't had another disagreement. He's...

I don't know what it is right now, but I am seriously jonesing for Owen's cock. I mean like full on addict style. Clearly, I have sex addict issues, but it's like insane right now. I haven't seen him for a week and a half and it will definitely be 2 or 2 1/2 weeks before I finally get too. We've been sexting, which almost makes it worse because it taunts me but I can't have it! He's working some side job this week with ridiculous hours that is thwarting us from a much needed release of sexual energy. When I do finally see him, I can assure you all it will be ON. I had sex with Gavin tonight. He called me today and told me it's his son's birthday and he was going to his party. I suggested he come over afterwards, which is always code for "come over and fuck me". He did, but because it wasn't the sex I'm craving it was basically just  mediocre. I sucked him, he fucked me, he creampied my kitty and I barely came twice. Russell was in...

So we all know Miranda is not very good at resisting urges.  But one urge I have been very good at resisting is seeing Sawyer in person (cue dramatic music).  Thankfully, I’ve been able to hold very strong on that since last fall outside of the odd times we run into each other in public settings. He found out via the kids that Coach and I had broken up and he started emailing me the odd message now and again.  And of course, he started flirting heavily and asking me to meet up with him.  He even pulled out the tactic of challenging me just to kiss him and see if I could resist. The thing is I know if I was stupid enough to agree to that challenge I would totally cave and it’d be on like Donkey Kong.  Aside from the horrific mental ramifications of being involved with him again along with the bad bad relationship karma of being involved with a married guy, I know the sex totally wouldn’t live up to my memories.  The affair made things so hot and intense an...

So Coach had his back surgery and he’s back in town per his crazy ass plan.  He messaged me via Facebook a few times while I was in Hawaii but nothing worth blogging about.  Then I came home from Hawaii.  For some reason he started messaging and texting me – a lot.  I guess maybe because he was curious about Hawaii and couldn’t see my wall or because he was immobile after his surgery.  Who knows but it was making me crazy.  So I refriended him on Facebook with hopes that he’d just stalk me that way and leave me alone.  It’s worked pretty well I will say.  He’s only texted me like twice since I accepted his friend request.  That being said, I’m sure it’s only a matter of time until he goes crazy pants again. He did text me Sunday night I guess and said he was bored laying on the couch.  I told him to chill out he’d only had surgery two days ago and that I was going to bed.  About 15 minutes later I got a text from him saying, “HA I...

I was laying in bed the other night pondering my current relationships with the team and then it hit me like a freaking ton of bricks. I'm essentially monogamous with these 2 men. Ok, technically I guess it's polyamory only Owen doesn't know about Gavin. At any rate, it's weird for me and it almost broke my brain and lead to several hours of insomnia. I've been having an affair with Owen for almost 3 years. January will be 3 years. Outside of my marriage, this is hands down my longest sexual relationship and I've been sexually active for 22 years (another whammy in the acknowledgement of that length). Owen and I have had sex way more than Russell and I ever did in the actual 9 years of our marriage. (I don't count the last 1.5 years since we're technically separated.) As I said in the last post, I have a super short attention span and I lose interest quickly. Why haven't I lost interest in him? I mean it is the best sex of my life, but what exactly...

1. You encounter a good looking lost and frantic tourist looking for the airport. You: A) Shrug your shoulders, feigning ignorance. B) Find the shortest route on your smartphone and get him/her a cab. C) Direct him/her to the nearest bus stop. D) Get your car, pick up his/her luggage and speed to the airport.   I don't have a smartphone, so I guess C. I would not put him in my car. That's just stupid in my humble opinion. I've picked up one hitch hiker ever and he was an old man that just paddled out of the water at the wrong spot. I felt safe. - Jules   I would do B if I had a smartphone but since I don't I'd probably just give them directions.  My police office daddy put too many hitchhiker fears in my head. - Miranda Probably A. Depends on my own situation at the time. If they asked me for help I would do my best but if they didn't ask I think I'd probably just keep on with what I was doing. -Gwyn 2. You’re taking a vacation alone. Your destinat...

OMG I've been climbing the walls for sex. I just had the period that would NOT end...tmi, I know. It was finally over today, but it's been a very long, seriously packed day. My horoscope this morning read that today would be a very productive day, but to save energy for the festivities tonight. Um, ok. The day started at 5:30am. I woke up to a call from Russell. He had gone out last night and I assumed he was stranded with some car issue...wrong. He was in the ER with a kidney stone, which is like his 5th one. It's become an annual event. I told him to call me and let me know later if they were releasing him and then he proceeded to text me for the next hour until it was time for me to get up anyway. I had horrible insomnia the night before, so I actually hadn't gone to sleep until 1am. Yes, 4.5 hours of sleep. It does not suit me. I called Gavin at 7:30am following Russell's call that they were releasing him to see if he would ride with me an hour away to the h...

Well Miranda’s back on the mainland.   Boo hoo.   I’m feeling oddly introspective today which I guess shouldn’t surprise me since with all the changes but it has caught me off guard none the less. Hawaii was amazing. I just love it there. Even beyond the fact that Jules and Gwyn are there, I just feel such an overwhelming sense of peace there.   Coming home was hard.   Really hard.   Much harder than I expected.   Saying bye to Gwyn and Jules was much harder than I expected. It was a whole dramatic scene in the airport lol.   I was half drunk from the Zombies we drank at dinner, sobbing walking through the airport.   Then I popped half an Ambien and was extra loopy which at least settled down the crying and led to some very funny texts I sent to the girls and Russell. Last night I was really too worn out to do much beyond unpack and lay on the couch watching poor TV.   My friend D called me and begged for me to come out with her. I actu...

Team Jules has a man down. Gavin has been sick for 3 days and he's in full on self pity mode about it. He called me yesterday about 50 million times while I was in a training with my boss. When I finally called him back, he said he just wanted to talk to me to make sure he could come hang out at my house. It seems the mere comfort of my house is enough for him...lol. I told him I wouldn't be home until late because of having to take Miranda to the airport (sniff, sniff) and he said he was going home to bed before I got back but just wanted to hang out at my house for a while first. He called me today and was just pitiful. I ended up feeling sorry for him and invited him over or told him I would bring him provisions if he needed. He said he really wanted to come to my house and see me, so he did. Russell was making Chicken and Dumplings, but Gavin was hungry immediately. I went out and got us Thai since I don't eat chicken any longer (though it was hard to resist tonight) ...

I have always sucked at saying goodbye, even when it just means see you later. I'm not a fan. Miranda left tonight and I've actually been in a funk for the past 2 days over it. I came home early yesterday and she was at the beach. Gavin was here sick and I was playing around on FB waiting for him to come to life and her to come home. In the process, I got extremely homesick. My brother and his wife are expecting a baby next month and my grandparents just celebrated their 60th anniversary last weekend and I missed their party. I'm having my period and I'm just feeling whiny. Last night, I felt like numbing myself. I started with a lot of wine early on. Gavin cooked Miranda, Gwyn, McDreamy, Chloe, and myself a fabulous dinner and we sat on the porch drinking and smoking after. I started to feel myself passing out and kind of abruptly got up and went to lay on the bed. Gavin was in my room already and I apparently demanded that he play with my ass. This lead to him fucki...

So as promised, Gwyn, Jules, and I went out Tuesday night and it was a blast.  Funny though because one of us has a boyfriend, one of us has two sort of boyfriends, and one of us is a free agent (oh boy aside).  Regardless, we got gussied up and forced our old lady selves to go out. First bar we went to, we picked up a bartender, too bad it was a girl, with more tattoos than Miranda and Gwyn added together.  After we kvetched about divorce, we determined that no suitable men were available and we headed to another bar.  I should note that the original bar was the very one where Karoke Boy IDd Jules and Miranda and filled in a lot of drunken missing details a year ago. So we headed to the second bar.  Upon walking in there was an awful lot of bad karaoke.  An awful lot that Miranda unfortunately knew.  At some point in the night a random dude approached and provided Jules and Miranda with shots of an indeterminate nature but ones that quite possi...

I am enjoying the hell out of Miranda and Gwyn being here. We're having a blast and I'm sad every time I have to go to school or work and leave them. Fortunately, I've been off from work all but one day (called in sick today to sit on the beach all day with Miranda), but I have school in the morning all day. Anyway, it's been awesome. We've had so much fun laughing and relaxing and hiking and spending a boat load of time on the beach. Not much to report on boy news...Gavin has been ever present. He's slept over a few nights (one when Chloe was home and I got up at 6am to move to the couch so she wouldn't know!). We've had sex a few times and I've tried to pay attention to whether or not he has any constant thing he says when he cums since we have been laughing our asses off over "Oh Boy" all week. He does not...the other night it was "I want you to drink all of my cum baby" and before that it was "Make my fucking cock squir...

So finally McDreamy and I are together.   Bad news is that he doesn’t have gas money. Wait, maybe he doesn’t and that’s good news.   But the issue is he was having money troubles. GI bill issues and all that mess.    But Wednesday night I got here and we had amazing first time sex. Like rockets and fireworks sex.   Like meant to be sex. And yes I realize the ice queen has melted. Everything has been magical. As dorky as that sounds it’s awesome.    McDreamy has been around Jules and Miranda and passed with flying colors. He handled Jules and Russell and the neighbor they’ve both slept with. He nursed me and Miranda up a crazy hike.    He’s the real deal. And he’s cute as hell.   And we’ve had a hell of a lot of sex.   Shower sex, bed sex, and way more. Including sex with his shoes on and me butt naked.   Sometimes, shorts are just too restrictive lol. The good news it everything with him is as awesome and amazing as I imagine...

Just a quick Hawaii update...It's funny but when the three of us seem to get together we actually calm down lol. It's like we suddenly gain perspective on the role of men in our lives and find ourselves content with one another's company with little if any need for men. Have no fear though we are heading out to a local bar tomorrow night I believe. I'm sure this relatively debauchery free trip will switch things up then. A couple of funny side notes to share.  I'm shocked I forgot to include this in my last post but the Ginger did one of the most humorous things ever right at the culmination of our sex.  In my array of bed buddies I've heard lots of things said during sex.  Swear words, professions of affection, moans and groans galore but the Ginger sprung a new one on me.  Right before he was about to cum, he uttered....Oh Boy.  Like 5-6 times in a row each one more excited and louder than the last.  Yes, he said Oh Boy. It wouldn't be as funny if he ...

I’m in full on vacation mode with Miranda and Gwyn being here, but yesterday morning Owen asked me if I could meet him and I agreed to right after school drop off. He texted me that morning to tell me that his van was full of stuff and ask what options we had for places to go. Since Miranda was at my house, I suggested the beach at our usual spot. He quickly replied he was driving there right away and had towels with him. I usually get there before him because he likes to walk up on me. Yesterday, he got there first and I met him. He wasn’t laid out like I normally am waiting for him, but instead greeted me with a kiss and stood there holding and kissing me right past the dunes. I could feel him getting hard while pressing against me and he eventually took his shorts off and moved my bathing suit bottom over to touch me. I started stroking him with my hand while kissing him and then he flipped me around and pulled my suit down and fucked me standing up. He’s a foot taller than I am, b...

There really is nothing better than your girlfriends. Miranda

We’re here! Yep the island of Oahu better be ready for Jules, Gwyn, and Miranda!   And in the last 48 hours all three of us have got laid.   Go girls!   After a very very long day of traveling, counting front butts in Detroit, pondering the weirdos in LA, and then a long awaited round of hugs at the Honolulu airport, the three of us were united again.   We promptly headed to Jules for wine therapy and to let Gwyn get ready to meet McDreamy.   She’s got a great story to tell about that so I won’t share any details except to say that he’s cute as can be, very polite, and Jules and I totally creeped and watched them meet for the first time from Jules’ car.   It was hilarious. Now for Miranda’s tale of sex and debauchery! Well sex but not much debauchery yet.   Tuesday night the Ginger wanted to spend some time with me before my Hawaiian adventures. I still had some packing to do so he just grabbed us some dinner and came over to my place.   We ate a...

My girls are coming in 20 hours and 34 minutes according to the countdown clock and I'm psyched!!! Gavin, not so much b/c he knows it's basically a week and a half without him being the center of my attention...lol. No, he's been great about it and came over and cleaned most of his stuff (except for the things I asked him to leave for Gwyn) out of the 4th bedroom today. We actually had a very strange morning. He came over the first time while Russell and I were out for breakfast. He was freaking out when I got home that the gf had hacked all of his shit...email, FB, and his phone. He said that she emailed him a picture that she claims someone sent him. It's a picture of a girl's crotch in her bikini bottom. He says he didn't take it or receive it as a text and doesn't know wtf was going on with that. I believe him only b/c he's a technology moron. Gavin is super smart with a lot of hands on stuff, but he can't even figure out how to send a text, mu...