Tuesday, November 22, 2011

I Love My Gut

Well, no not literally. Actually, I hate my gut. Sometimes I stand in front of the mirror and push it all the way out to imagine myself as I would look pregnant and I'm scared at how realistic it looks. Other times when my period has been late I've stood in front of the mirror for 30 minutes looking at my gut and trying to determine if its size is the result of the munchies or if there is, in fact, a baby in there. But on with the post....

Since I am now the only one of the girls in a committed relationship and it's actually a relationship I enjoy with a man I really like, I've decided to become the Oprah of our blog. Ok so maybe I've also been watching lots of the OWN Network lately and I thought it would be fun to start my own lifeclass just like Oprah...either way I'm dishing out some advice. I haven't been sexually abused nor accused of being a lesbian but I think since I'm living in Hawaii at the age of 31, not working by choice and seemingly running into a continuous stream of amazingly good karma that I am just as qualified as the goddess of daytime talk to tell people what to do.

Now that we've got that out of the way it's time for my first piece of advice. Follow your gut.

If something feels right, it probably is. But, more importantly, if something feels wrong it almost always is.

It seems like a simple concept but it's something that I know we all (especially women) struggle with. The first time The Ex punched a hole in the wall of my apartment my gut told me it was time to get out. My brain told me that he would change if I tried hard enough. My heart told me that I loved him and I couldn't just walk away. Damn my other organs. They're always getting me into trouble.

God/the universe/an alien gave us our intuition to save our lives. When we were cave women we had to follow our instincts because that was all we had. As we've evolved we have learned to ignore that feeling we get when something just isn't right. We call our friends and ask them their opinions but we give them a skewed version of the story so that they have no choice but to agree with our take on the situation. We get on the Internet and look things up to convince ourselves that our gut is crazy. We do everything we can to ignore that feeling because it doesn't feel good. And most of the time it's not a life or death situation (at least not immediately) so even if we know we're making a bad choice we figure we won't have to deal with the consequences for awhile.

I bet if I asked both Miranda and Jules what their guts told them about Coach and Gavin they'd both tell me that their gut said "run away and run away as fast as you can". And I can say the same for The Barber and The Ex.

That's all the advice I have for today. I think I need to come up with a tagline so I can be more official. Oprah always says, "Now that you know you can't not do anything"...man she's good. Until I come up with something good I'll just go with this - do what I say or I'll stop telling you what to do ;)



  1. ah yes, the wonderful gut feeling, the one I often run away from :( I really need to start following that gut feeling ;'( gosh you are so right!!!

    Thank you

  2. Not only did my gut tell me, I kept telling myself...if you read the entire line of posts (which I did last month) related to Gavin, almost all of them note how I need to move on. I wish I'd listened sooner!

  3. How about "So suck it up and quit bitching" for your line :-) I know most of the "problems" in my life could have been solved with that piece of advice.

    I like your "follow your gut" theory, except it doesn't take into account those of us whose guts are mentally (intestinally?) disabled. My gut keeps telling me that there is far more than sex involved in happiness, and if sex is the only thing about my relationship that makes me truly unhappy, than I should just have sex with other people and appreciate all the other good things about my relationship. I think my gut might be slightly insane and narcissistic.

    There's a line by Nick Hornby I love: “I've been thinking with my guts since I was fourteen years old, and frankly speaking, between you and me, I have come to the conclusion that my guts have shit for brains.”