Hello faithful readers, it's me OprahGwyn. I'm back with another change-your-life post. And by 'change-your-life post' I mean one where I ask you all why in the world so many people are totally changing their lives by going gay!!!
It all started for me about a year ago when one of my best friends, whom I've known since we were 14 years old, told me that she was a lesbian. Now, this wouldn't be so shocking if it wasn't coming from a girl who has slept with no less than 300 men and is one of the most penis loving women I know. When she told me, it was about 10 months after she separated from her husband (they were married for a year). I personally think she is a nymphomaniac and also bi-polar but clearly my diagnosis was off, she's not a crazy slut she's just a lesbian (I joke).
At the time of this revelation, she was working in an office with a lesbian of the butch variety. She told me that she felt a very strong attraction to the girl, who happened to be in a long term relationship at the time. This particular friend of mine is in the habit of breaking up relationships and doing other pretty crazy things so I'm never really shocked when she comes to me with her latest ordeal. But this one threw me for a loop. She is now engaged to the girl she met at her office and they have been living together for about 6 months. To this day I still don't think that she's a lesbian. I think she is a person who craves physical affection and even more than that, emotional closeness. It doesn't matter to her if that comes from a man or a woman, she will gravitate to whomever is giving her the most of what she craves (she always chose very clingy or controlling men that would want to be around her 24/7). But, regardless of what I think, she has chosen to embrace the lesbian lifestyle and I am completely supportive - although I will admit that I am about sick and tired of seeing her in nothing but sweatpants and equal rights t-shirts and having to drag her to go to places that aren't lesbian dive bars.....just being honest :)
Case #2 involves another friend of mine who is having an affair with a woman that has been going on for a couple of months. This particular friend is also married - to a man. She experimented some with girls in college but also always had boyfriends and never identified herself as a lesbian. She doesn't call herself a lesbian now either but is in a full fledged same sex relationship.
My Brazilian bff used to have threesomes with other girls and, although I'm not certain because I wouldn't let her give me the details, I am pretty sure she performed oral sex on at least one girl and definitely made out with quite a few. Again, she is straight and has only been in relationships with men.
Our very own Jules has ventured into the land of lesbianism recently in some of her swinging parties with Gavin. Two of my girlfriends used to make out with each other when they were on ecstasy. Even Miranda has kissed a girl (the friend I described at the beginning of this post!!). Miranda's new friend "D" told her she let a girl go down on her once. When I think about it, almost every girl I know has at least kissed another girl and many of them have gone much further. I'm not sure about my male friends but if my female friends are any indication....good lord.
What is going on? Am I just a big stick in the mud for not wanting to be sexually active with girls? Is it normal for everyone to be a little bi-sexual and those of us who aren't are the outliers? Do we need to redefine the way we define sexual orientation - are there more options than just being 'gay' or 'straight' or 'bisexual'? Is this a recent phenomenon or are more people just disclosing their same sex activities than did in previous generations? Are girls doing this for attention? Are girls doing this because they've given up on the male species? I have so many questions!!!!
Even though this may bring some criticism from our readers or cause people to think I am a completely sheltered Southern lunatic - in my opinion either you are gay or you're not. To me, bisexual means gay. I realize this may not be a popular opinion but I'm just stating how I feel. I also have a theory (and I've had this theory for many years) that 50% of our population today is gay - I shared it with Miranda and she thought I was crazy but now she's starting to wonder if I'm right! And let it be known that I have zero issues with someone being gay - it doesn't change my opinion of that person nor do I look at it as some sort of moral weakness. I think it is just a difference that people have.
I have NEVER had the urge to kiss a girl, let a girl go down on me, touch a girl in any sexual way, etc. NEVER. This is the main reason I have the opinion I do - either you're straight with no same sex tendencies or you're gay with some to lots of same sex tendencies. The other reason I think the way I do is because it's easier for me if I can categorize people in black and white categories - I readily admit this fact. Life gets too confusing for me if I have to group people into some sort of sliding scale from 0%-100% gay!!
I'd love to hear everyone's opinions on this topic....