Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

Gavin got home late Tuesday night and yesterday about lunch time I rec'd a text from Russell that read "Oh June, the Beaver's home.". It made me laugh out loud during a training where laughing was inappropriate. I got home and he called me to find out where I was about 3pm. When he heard I was home, he offered to bring me food and said he was on the way. Gavin walked up to me on the porch and kissed me. He said he had missed me and then he handed me a dress he'd gotten for me. It's totally cute and I loved it. I've never had a man other than Russell buy me clothes, so that was a little strange. We chatted for a bit and then we went into the kitchen for him to unload the groceries he brought over. He stripped down and said he was going to roll my sushi in the nude and then he suggested that I suck his very hard cock. I did and within seconds, he flipped me around and entered me...in my kitchen! The kitchen was a virginal room until today (yay!). I've h...

If you all read my TMI answers this week then you know that one of my unaccomplished goals with McDreamy was to see the goods. I am happy to report that mission has been accomplished. Not only did I see it but I also had what Miranda refers to as "Skype sex" for the first time ever...it was awesome! Let me set the scene for you....... My second Skype date with McDreamy was planned for Monday night. We agreed this 'date' would be more casual than the first and that we just wanted to see each other and talk (in the first date I put on makeup, did my hair, wore a sexy outfit, etc..). I didn't put makeup on this time and wore a v-neck boys tshirt (no bra of course) with a pair of VS thermal boy short pajamas. McDreamy requested more light for our second date, the first date was at a friend's house and the room I was in didn't have an overhead light, so I set my computer up on my bed and made sure the light was suitable. I laughed at myself as I staged my s...

It’s no surprise Miranda’s been a little lackluster lately. I’ve been in a funk for a month or so now. Some days are worse than others though lately I’ve felt it finally lightening up a good bit.   I’ve been trying to think about why I’ve been so blue.   I know work is unfulfilling and annoying, I’m having early sadness about Gwyn’s departure, and the wear and tear of a six month long distance relationship have all been issues. I also know Father’s Day played a part of it.   The first few days after that were particularly hard and it took pretty much everything I had in me to keep up a relatively sane and un-miserable front for the kids last week. Honestly it was so bad and unusual for the way I normally feel that more than once I’ve Googled signs of depression and considered calling my counselor. I’ve opened up quite a bit to Coach about this stuff and he’s taken more than his fair share of the brunt of my “grumpiness” as of late and he’s taken it in stride knowing ...

There is a downside to fucking older men. They have health issues. I'm in my mid 30s and Gavin and Owen are both in their early 40s, but things start happening around this age it seems. Gavin and Owen both have a lot of physical pains b/c of how hard they run their bodies. Both of them are very active and still act like they are in their 20s, when in fact they are not. I've mentioned Owen's recent back and shoulder pains, but it also seems he's having an issue with his eyes. He mentioned it a few weeks ago that they were bothering him, but honestly I couldn't tell anything. If anything, he looked just a little bloodshot and tired when he brought it up. Yesterday, he went for his work physical and failed the eye exam. Because what he does for work is very visual, he's on sick leave until this is cleared up. The doctor wants to run some blood work and do some tests because they aren't sure what's going on. It seems it's not just old age, normal visio...

What are the three "nevers" of your life (things you would never do or never have done)? Cocaine. Threesome. Toss a guy's salad. -Gwyn Heroin, those electroshock sex toys, and sex with Cabana Boy (the guy who gave me chlamydia last summer) - Miranda Meth, skydive, and become a lesbian - Jules Who or what sleeps with you? One or both of my cats and my phone. -Gwyn Normally no one. But randomly my cat or Ladybug end up in my bed. Of course Coach gets to sleep here when he's in town and I don't have the kids. - Miranda No one and/or nothing is allowed in Jules' bed for sleeping except Chloe sneaks in a lot. I sleep alone and I love it! It is one of my favorite things about divorce.- Jules What were you doing at midnight last night? I was in a cough syrup/Mucinex induced coma. -Gwyn Sleeping in preparation for a killer 5 hour interview I had today for a new job. Keep your fingers crossed. - Miranda Ordering back to school clothes for Chloe on line ...

I know I’ve been away for awhile but a lot has been going on with work and otherwise and I really haven’t had much time to devote to posting. But, the wait has been well worth it because now I have lots of good things to share! For those of you who don’t know already, my dream of moving to Hawaii turns into a reality on September 7th!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jules is in the process of transforming my closet/room into an island oasis as we speak and I cannot wait to set foot back in paradise! After six months of hard work everything is finally coming together. Karma is on my side right now and it feels amazing :) A couple months ago, in preparation for my big move, I set up a profile on POF for Hawaii. I met a few potentials but mostly a whole bunch of weirdness. I was about to give up when I got a message from a cute guy who seemed to have a good sense of humor and, on the surface, didn’t seem crazy as a loon (side note – I’ve learned over the past months that there are LOTS of crazy peopl...

I'm here to tell you all now it's going to be really hard to ever give up sex with Owen. I have never, ever, ever in the many lovers I've had experienced more orgasms than that man gives me. His family comes back tomorrow, so it's going to be a few weeks before we can see each other again with school being out and his wife being off and my current schedule. Today, we decided to have some hard core, porn star type sex. I bought this outfit a few days ago...I'm not savvy enough to have photographed it all together, but it's this dress  with these shoes. I sent Owen pictures of it the other day and he couldn't wait to get here after work today. He's worked like crazy doing two jobs these past two weeks, so we haven't had as much sex as anticipated, but it's definitely been awesome and far more frequent than normal! I'm lobbying for him to let the family go away on vacation alone more often! I could get used to this. He came in today and I w...

If we had gone with all Sex and the City names, I would definitely have been Samantha. She's my favorite and the one I relate to the most. I woke up a little out of sorts this morning over the whole judgement thing by Brooklyn. It really pissed me off, but I also used it as a time to reflect some on myself. Truthfully, I texted Clark to ask his opinion. It's a sad day when he's my moral compass, but I needed some honest feedback and I knew he'd provide it. Basically, he told me that I'm wrong. I can't expect men to want to date me on any level really, serious or otherwise, if I'm fucking other men....especially other men that I've been fucking for years.I still disagree with this assessment, but I'm curious how our readers answer the poll...be honest. I was sitting on the couch this morning watching the aforementioned show and it's the episode where Carrie walks in on Samantha servicing the delivery guy in her office. My favorite line was whe...

I hate judgmental people. If I wanted your Puritanical Christian values imposed on me, I'd join your club, but since I haven't...shut it. Jules is pissed today. I should be relieved but I'm not because while I was pretty much over the Brooklyn situation, he imposed his judgement on me today and it has not set well. Back it up, he called me today to hang out at the beach. I agreed, but he didn't call me when he said he would so I left to head to my favorite resort here. It's North Shore and they have a restaurant on the beach and serve great cocktails and wonderful food. I parked my ass there and waited for him to find me. He showed up and we hung out for a while and talked and then went to eat. While we were eating, he asks me if he's the only person I'm sleeping with. Well, when you ask me a direct question like that, I'm going to give you a direct answer. I said "No, is that a problem for you?" (Please keep in mind this is date 4 in 1 week ...

Men make this analogy with me a lot. I can keep going and going, but honestly I'm ready for a day or two off. ;) Owen texted me this afternoon and said he could cum make me cum in an hour if I was home. I was home and if I hadn't been home, I would have made it there before then!  He came in and got onto the bed with me and started sucking my tits while  I was playing with my favorite vibrator. I came and he quickly replaced my toy with him. He put my legs over his shoulder and watched me as he pushed into me. I was laying there with my eyes closed and smiling. I felt him watching me and when I opened my eyes, he was smiling back at me. I love the intimacy we have, but I also appreciate that it really is just sexual between us. It makes it all about 1 million times hotter for me. He had me dripping and then told me to ride him. I hopped onto his waiting cock and rode him hard while he played with my ass. The bed was slamming against the wall and I was trying to be quiet sinc...

Last night was my 3rd date with Brooklyn. I invited him over for dinner and drinks. We ate and sat and talked on the porch while drinking for a long time...and then I started sneezing, so I made the mistake of taking an allergy pill (important part of the story).  By the way, he's a biter and I've already had to put a stop to that. We came inside after a while and it was determined that Russell was going out after work, so I thought we had a while to play around. We fucked a couple of times and then apparently we passed out on each other. The allergy pill knocked my ass out along with a bottle of wine and I woke up at 12:30am with him jumping off of me and Russell slamming the door and announcing his presence....ooops. Russell had texted that he was on the way about 15 minutes earlier, but I slept through the text. Brooklyn ran into the bathroom and started dressing and I went out and apologized to Russell, who just smirked at me. Russell ended up being ok with it. He knew ...

Recently both Jules and one of our favorite bloggers – Ethan from Confessions of a Bastard – questioned if I was glad I was not going to have to see Sawyer anymore.   Let me assure you dear readers that I am. I don’t deny that there’s still a wickedly weird attraction there but I truly want nothing more to do with him.   Even if he left his wife, I still wouldn’t want to be with him because I know I’d never, ever trust him to be faithful.   He’s definitely one of those out of sight out of mine situations.   When I lived next door to him, it ramped up the attraction and intensity to unbelievable heights.   As soon as I moved out, it started filtering down and eventually I got to the point where I didn’t even think about him (especially when I was dating like 10 guys at once lol). I will always be "grateful" for him shocking me out of my life of inertia and reawakening the me that was carefully tucked away inside.    For making me take a risk and st...

How many states have you had sex in? How many countries? Yes, Oral counts! All sex acts– penetrative or not– are sex. Well, if all sex acts are sex I better up the numbers I've been telling people. (Joke...because I lost count eons ago.) Ok, onto the question...I've had sex in Hawaii, California, Washington (state and DC), Virginia, Florida, Louisiana, Illinois, New York, North Carolina, South Carolina, and Georgia. I've been to many more states, but I was with Russell and well we know how that went...bwahahaha. Interestingly enough, all of my foreign sex with was him though to include Amsterdam, France, Bora Bora, Moorea, somewhere in the waters of the Caribbean, Peru, and Jamaica. That brings us to 12 (11 if you don't consider DC) states and 7 (?) countries...not sure how to count the water thing. - Jules Miranda is not nearly as well traveled as she'd like to be.  I've had sex in North Carolina, South Carolina, Pennsylvania, and Virginia only.  Wow that...

Last night, I had my second date with Brooklyn. It was one of the best second dates ever. He picked me up at my house and handed me a bag with 3 boxes of condoms to "replenish my stash". He took me to the State Fair and we rode a bunch of rides, ate yummy food, and played a ton of games. I totally kicked his butt at one game and we won a bunch of stuffed animals. (Since I'm a mom, I refused to take the animals home though. Those suckers multiply like rabbits and I have a current ban on new stuffed animals in my home, so it didn't seem fair for me bring more in.) I couldn't ride a lot of the super crazy rides like the Zipper and the Ring of Fire thing b/c I get sick, but we had fun on the rest. The ferris wheel was definitely the best...we rode it three times. Two of the three times, he went down on me when we were stuck at the top. It was so hot and naughty. Best line of the night from him came after the first ferris wheel cum trip when we were sitting on a bench ...

This weekend has been full of highs and lows.  I’m starting to think I’m manic – HA! Friday was a good day with Coach sending me early birthday flowers at work and a hilarious trip to the sex shop at lunchtime because he was too embarrassed to go get what was on our shopping list.  FYI – the shopping list was a pair of wrist restraints, a cock ring, a new vibrator for me, a blind fold, and a paddle - all part of my birthday present from him.  I did get the most awesome paddle ever. As I texted with Jules and perused the stock I happened upon this awesome paddle that looks like a paintbrush.  The handle is hard leather and then instead of the brush it has strings like thin rubber bands.  It hits just hard enough to sting but doesn't leave welts.  We used it Friday night when I got a birthday spanking face down across Coach’s lap.  HOT! That night when he got home we were very happy to see each other of course. We actually jetted off to see a movie ri...

Owen texted me this afternoon asking what time he could cum over tonight. I told him the time he suggested was fine and I'd see him soon. I was a little satisfied after the last 2 nights of insane sex, but I never, ever turn him down. I can always put myself in the mood very quickly. Well the time he was supposed to cum, came and went. It's Hawaii so I'm not overly hung up on punctuality like I used to be but after about 30 minutes, I texted to see if he was on the way or not. He replied about 30 minutes later that the massage therapist had just left and that yes, if we had time before Russell came home he definitely wanted to cum and apologized for not being on time. It seems the massage therapist is an old family friend that used to babysit his kids and he couldn't exactly just kick her out when she finished. I was watching Lost and was a little put out by his lack of communicating, so I said he could but I didn't do much to prep myself for him.  He entered the...

Every now and again, a girl needs some strange. I love my current team, but different is fun. I met a new guy on CL a few days ago and we had some super hot sexting until 1am 3 nights ago. We satisfied each other that way and decided to meet up this week. He lived right down the road from me it seems until this past week and now he's in a hotel awaiting a move to CA on the 27th...so perfect timing for a quick fling before Gavin returns. I was supposed to see Owen Thursday night but Russell came home from work early due to jetlag and totally cockblocked him. Owen and his wife rent out the bottom part of their house, so it's not an option for me to go there especially since I'm soooo loud with him. It seems he threw his back out though, so he was ok with it all. I'm not...he needs to mend now! (He said yesterday that  he needs one more day and is planning to come over this evening after work.) Now, back to the strange...I met this guy at his hotel after a lot of texting....

I’ve said before that doing the whole long distance thing doesn’t totally suck.   I still get my me time, I have enough freedom, and I see Coach just enough to keep from getting sick of him or him getting on my nerves.   There are times I hate it (generally the night after he goes back to DC) but in many ways, it has been really good for us because it’s made us focus on really getting to know each other in a way that would be easy to gloss over if we were in person.   All of this is to say that another benefit of the long distance thing is super hot sexting! I mean good grief, how did any of us exist before cell phones and texting.   So far there have only been a couple of long stretches (2 weeks) where we haven’t seen each other but boy does that make the sexting skyrocket!   We’re currently at the end of one of those 2 week periods (thank god he’ll be home for my birthday this weekend) and the last few days the sexting has been intense.   I have big ...

Jules is back on her island with a bang and apparently referring to herself in third person...lol. I texted Owen today to alert him of my return, though it seems he was already aware. He told me that he was taking the family to the airport tonight and I suggested he stop by on the way home.(Pleasant surprise since I didn't think they left until tomorrow!)  He sort of hesitated because apparently he'd told the kids he would call and talk to them until boarding (really?!), but in the end he realized Russell returns tomorrow and the only way to get some before Thursday was to cum tonight. I was a bit tipsy when he arrived and was seated on the edge of my bed with one of my favorite toys in my ass getting it ready for his giant cock. We had the usual sheet soaking, toe curling, omfg sex, only I realized that at this hour after a bottle of wine...I have no intentions of changing my sheets before the morning. I wonder how many nights I shall sleep on dirty sheets over the next 2 we...

It's time for you all to give Jules some pointers. Gavin and I have been chatting since we've been apart and he's mentioned some new fantasies. Actually, the dominatrix thing started before he left when we were watching porn one night and this chick was standing on some guy's balls in heels and he mentioned he might enjoy that. I'm so domineering in my normal life, but I'm totally submissive in bed. Hence my dilemma...I want to do this for him out of submission, but it violates my very sexual nature. As we were talking this morning, he made a comment about me spanking him. I get how guys spank us. My ass is up in the air because you're fucking me from behind or I'm straddling your lap and your hands are just right there...but how do women spank guys? Am I supposed to bend him over my knee and what am I supposed to spank him with? This just seems a little maternal and odd for me, but I'm willing to give it a go when he comes back. Tips, please! -Ju...

Happy TMI Tuesday! Here are today's answers from Gwyn and Miranda - Jules will add hers in when she recovers from her jet lag and finishes up Jules Appreciaton Day! You have started your own sex themed business. What is the name of your business? What is your specialty service or product? BONUS: In one or two sentences, what is your business’s slogan or motto?   Me and Gwyn talk about starting a business to bust cheating spouses/partners.  We'd call it Double B's (we both have b's in our names) and our motto would be - "Catch your Dick being a Dick!"  - Miranda Well said Miranda! - Gwyn  I've been told on more than one occasion that I should charge for my oral services, so I guess it would be Oral Fixation if I ever went the way of prostitution and all. "We'll lick and suck you til the last drop"??- Jules You have to write a 10-word message to the man/woman of your dreams, what would you say? Liam Neeson - please make me a trophy wife. - ...

Amidst our boy and sex talk, a reoccurring theme has appeared here on Infidelity Chronicles.   We’re all relatively well established, thriving adult women in various stages of life; doing fine professionally and personally; handing our business and taking care of ourselves despite whatever bumps the road may have had for us.   And yet each and every one of us are over it.   We’re not satisfied with our lives.   We’re tired of working.   We’re tired of living by someone else’s rules.   Basically, we’re all having a thrisis. Thrisis – a 30 something life crisis There have been tons of articles written about this in the last few years.   It’s not your quarter life crisis where you’re fresh out of school and trying to figure out how to be an adult.   It’s not your mid-life crisis when you’re in your mid-40s and think the best years of your life are behind you.   A thrisis is about looking forward and thinking, “I don't want the next 30 years...