Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

Well I’m all moved in! Friday I spent the day packing and moving small stuff over to the house. That evening, Kansas came over to put in my new door locks and hang curtain rods for me. When he got there my mom and sister were still there so they got a sneak peek at him. He did his handyman stuff and then we just hung out and drank a few beers and talked a bunch. Kansas had asked about doing something that night but I’d already made plans with the girls for a party girl night so I had to decline which made me feel oddly guilty. After he left I raced to the apartment to throw myself together so I could give my hot new red cowboy boots their first night on the town. What followed was a ton of fun dancing and general crazy girl antics and Imaginary Baby Daddy sweating me hard. It was a very near miss that night with him.  He's been texting me a lot lately and the next day during the day he blew up my phone talking about how hot I was that night. Saturday I drug myself out of bed,...

Super Bowl Sunday Celebration (or any sports party) Even if their team is not going to the Super Bowl, millions of people love an excuse to party. So party we will. Tell us what your ideal Super Bowl Celebration (or any sports party) looks like by answering: What’s your favorite _____ that you’ll serve at the party (name one item for each): a. choice of beer   Corona - Jules Landshark - Miranda  Whatever is on sale - Gwyn b. choice of wine White is my favorite...I love a good Chardonnay, though I usually drink Mama's Big Bottle b/c it comes in the quantity in which wine is consumed around here. - Jules Any kind of white is fine with me. - Miranda What kind of sports party involves wine? -Gwyn   c. choice of distilled spirit Pass - that means puking. - Jules Crown - Miranda Vodka - Gwyn  d. choice of mixed drink Margaritas! - Jules Margaritas! - Miranda Vodka cranberry. Are you gals planning a mexican fiesta or a super bowl party? -Gwyn e. choice of chip ...

Ola lovers!   Miranda is in love – with her new house. And she’s in like with Kansas. But this post is not about him. Well not entirely.   Because tonight as we hung out it filtered through my mind that as great as he’s been with buying me things, this Valentine’s Day very well may rock!   And because we crossed the sex threshold this weekend (details to come but let me say OMG hello magnums) this could be a very sexy Valentine’s Day! And in that vein of thought, I thought about maybe buying some sexy lingerie to debut for Kansas on V-Day.   Eden Fantasies – our favorite sex toy shop – is having a rocking Valentine’s Day sale! Right now depending on what you buy you get all sorts of discounts!  And they have a great clearance sale going on on top of that.   You need to be sure you register on the site to receive them email newsletter so you can stay on top of great deals like the Valentine’s Day sale. And while I’m certainly not the sex...

Well it was an interesting Saturday here with Jules not wasting a second of time whoring it up! It started off with me waking up to texts from Owen saying that he was headed this way and wondered if we could see each other. We could and we did! He has been sexting with me for days and days and we had some pent up sexual energy! His kids have been sick and he's been Dr. Dad since he's not working full time right now. He found out this week that he has to have surgery on his shoulder soon too...boo. He made it seem like no big deal though, I guess it just means I'll be on top for a while. ;)  I spent a great day with Chloe hanging out doing Mommy stuff. We shell hunted, hiked, sat on the beach, read, shopped, and shared an acai bowl. It was a fun day with my girl! When we came home from our day, she headed over to her bff's house for a sleepover. Here's where it gets interesting. I mean morning sex with Owen was interesting, but he's become the norm...lol.  I wa...

Yesterday the gloves finally came off and I told off Coach via Facebook to the extent that he yet again pulled his account down. If, and when, he re-enacts it, I’m blocking him. I’m so done with his constant “I’ve changed” and “Give me another chance” emails through it. I’ve pretty much ignored him in large part maybe answering only 1 in 5 emails but earlier this week I think the stress and fatigue of moving/work made my nice girl veneer crack and I started throwing back barbs at him trying to push him away. He was pretty quite after my statement that he had to win back Gwyn and Jules before I’d even consider giving him another shot until the last two days. Monday he was emailing and emailing me and I was ignoring him but it got under my skin after a while. Kansas was meeting me over at my house after work so he could paint my bedroom for me while I finished the bathroom and I kept getting Coach’s emails to my phone. I finally just turned it off. A rarity for me lol. Side note –...

Wow, some serious fucking crazy ensued here this weekend. It's been enough to make me wonder if anyone is normal anymore. So, I blogged about my crazy week and then Thursday night I put up a CL ad looking for a new guy b/c I'm over POF and I'm not paying for a dating site. Of course this sparked some crazy replies b/c it is CL after all, but it also sparked some potential good ones as well. I put the ad up because I realized it had been over 2 months since the whole thing with Gavin and that I really needed to move on and usually moving on for me means meeting a new guy. Friday morning, I wake up to a reply to my ad from Damien and a follow up email from him totally blasting me for putting up an ad and calling it a total slap in the face to him and how hurt he was, etc. Then, he calls me about 7am and rails against it for about 5 minutes as I'm brushing my teeth during his phone call. He demanded that I take it down and I said I probably would that night. He hung up a...

I’m a homeowner!   Whoot!   After two months of anxiety yesterday I signed my papers and got my keys!   Tonight I did my first real home improvement project – I changed a toilet seat.   It was disgusting but satisfying.   In more interesting news, I had a bunch of funny stuff happen with boys this week.   Jethro (the guy who fell and then disappeared within the same week) emailed me.   We exchanged a couple messages and he apologized for the way he acted before and said it was just him, not me.   He asked if we could talk sometime and I told him sure. He’s texted me a few times since but no phone call.   I think he knows his ship has sailed. The weirdo guy who was going to rub his sister’s triceps messaged me through Match.   He asked for a second chance and I asked him why he felt the need to lie.   He said it was a split second reaction and that he really wanted another change. I told him no thanks. The landscaper has been ...

It's been a hell of a week... I knew Gavin was supposed to move on Monday and apparently so did my subconscious b/c I've been dreaming about him all week and I never dream about people I know in real life. That has weighed heavily on me and sleep has been at a minimal. I had not returned his call from over a week or two ago b/c I knew if he was still here it wasn't emotionally safe for me to call him. I saw Owen on Tuesday for amazing, hot, omg sex. He's been helping me research some stuff for a new hobby Gwyn and I have. It's nice of  him, but honestly it's outside of our realm and I just asked two questions and now it's turned into a thing. I don't want a thing...I just wanted an answer about power tools since I married a gay man and I've quit speaking to my Dad. Wednesday and Thursday I attended a training about alcoholism, suicide, and cyber bullying. In the midst of this, my Dad starts texting me. I finally broke my silence and railed him a...

Between work being frantic over a press conference we’re hosting on Thursday and buying a house/moving I’m about overwhelmed. Last night I was sitting at home after working till 9 pm and tried to change the channel using my phone! But it’s all good exciting stuff so I guess I shouldn’t complain too much. Last weekend I went out with a new guy. He and I had been texting for a couple weeks and I figured it was finally time to bite the bullet and meet him face to face. He was the very last guy from PoF and while I thought he was cute in an overgrown frat boy sort of way I just wasn’t sure about him. He’d originally invited me out on New Year’s Day but I was too tired from all my Party Girl Weekend exploits and he’s been faithfully texting me every since. Not too much, just enough to let me know he’s still interested. Kansas (that’s where he’s from) 38, about 6’1, divorced for about 6 years, is some sort of Project Manager in telecommunications, and he was living in Colorado before he...

Happy TMI Tuesday . Let’s play Hoo Doo (Who Do?). Who or Who(m) do you want to: 1. Play naked twister with? Um no one. There are some parts of people I just don’t want to see that up close in a non-sexual moment. Just imagining trying to avoid looking at someone’s “brown eye” or seeing their balls hanging there would result in me becoming a child again and giggling incessently. - Miranda Yeah, um no thank you to that. -Gwyn Um, Owen I guess...really no one. Bad Naked! - Jules 2. Love? My Prince Charming! I’ve you’ve seen him lately, tell him I’m damn tired of waiting. - Miranda McDreamy. -Gwyn OMG you love McDreamy??? Like love, love?? (OK, I feel 15.) I love Chloe and sometimes I love Russell, but not in a sexual way. I love my parents (mostly). I love Miranda and Gywn and Josie and a few select others. - Jules 3. Excites you beyond belief? I don’t think there’s anyone that “excites me beyond belief.” If I could pull a blast from the past I’d love to be around Flyboy ag...

Owen texted me yesterday to see what my schedule was like this weekend and we talked about meeting up today for lunch or after work. He couldn't work the lunch time because he had to work, but he sent me a text asking what time I was getting off. (Hahaha, my reply is always "whenever you're around".) I told him and he said he had his kids then b/c the wife was teaching a class, but that he could drop them off at home and come see me. I told him that was a fabulous idea (since they are 10 and 12 after all) and that the house was free! We sexted some pictures back and forth and he's LOVING that I've kept my kitty shaved for him. Honestly, it still weirds me out, but whatever...I'm getting slightly more used to it. So, he came over for a little afternoon delight. I'd go into details, but due to the lack of comments on recent posts I can only assume that ya'll are tired of details of sex with Owen but it was the usual OMG fabulous, sheet soaking, I c...

I am a total crazy magnet. I mean I draw them like a moth to a flame. Russell told me last night that it’s because I’m so intense that sometimes that’s the only thing that matches my level. I guess there may be some truth to that.    The Damien thing has escalated to the point where I’ve backed totally out. It’s been coming since he found out about Owen. He’s super jealous and claims to be in love with me and seeing me working out is an “intimate experience” and not having me sexually is apparently torturing him. Meanwhile when he asked me last night when I was going to start having sex with him, I freaked.    I pointed out he’s fucking a Chinese version of my grandma complete with muumuu and I wasn’t really into following that. Honestly I have no sexual interest in him, so continuing to string him along just wasn’t right. I tried to push it all back on him, but finally I told him that I wasn’t going to work out with him anymore since I wasn’t ready to give him what ...