Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

This weekend rocked!  Peabody and I went up to the mountains for a three day music festival with a couple of his close friends and it was seriously one of the most fun weekends of my life.  We left Thursday after work and didn’t get home until late Sunday evening.  Peabody’s work was a sponsor for the event so we had VIP access all weekend which made it even sweeter. This was the first time I’d “camped” in a pop-up camper since I was a kid and it honestly wasn’t bad. The boys were majorly efficient with what to bring and cooking on the gas grill so outside from having to share the communal showers and bathrooms it wasn’t a bad deal at all.  Thursday night we sat outside and laughed and talked.  All day Friday we sat up in the festival area and watched band after amazing band. Everything from country to bluegrass to jam-style to rock bands.  We laughed and danced and generally had a blast even though we about drown in the hardest 30 minutes of rain...

I am seemingly dating The Chilean again, but I am taking it very slowly. Here's how it happened. Last week, his email got spammed and he sent me a message with a link to wedding dresses...rofl. I replied b/c I'd had a few that I thought perhaps this was spam unless it was a proposal. We started emailing and in the midst of it he told me that he is now single, but doesn't want to rush into a relationship. I told him I was fine with that. I wasn't the one saying I love you every 3 seconds before and that just dating and seeing where it goes is quite alright with me. So we have been...I went over Friday night and you can read about that in the post before this one where I had an epic parenting fail. Yesterday, he called and asked me to go hear a singer at a local resort's bar. I pondered it b/c it meant I would be going out before Chloe goes to bed, which is not something I do. I date around her, but sometimes that's hard. I discussed it with Russell and he said ...

Today was an epic parenting fail...I guess you win some, you lose some but this was just irresponsible on my part. I'm normally excessively responsible, especially with Chloe. Last night, I went to see The Chilean after Chloe went to bed. We had a really great time drinking margaritas and hanging out. We talked a lot. He claims he's single now and tried to tell me again that he loves me. I told him not to say that. He said in Spanish that they have many words for love, but in English we only have one. I told him that he can just tell me that he likes me, so he did...repeatedly. I really like him too. I don't know how permanent he is though, time will tell. His work visa expired, so now he's just here on a tourist visa. His roommate was gone last night, so we hung out in the living room and made out. He finally worked his way down and kissed my kitty forever. He told me that he's keeping my panties...had I known that I would have worn better ones...lol. We walked...

Probably not in the way you think though...I have real breasts. They are pretty awesome, even if I do say so myself. I actually could probably get some testimonials on it, but I digress. I love silicone toys!! Today, Eden Fantasys   sent me an email announcing 40% off these amazing things but the offer is only good through tomorrow!! If you have never had the pleasure of silicone, now is the chance. It's like fucking yourself with silk. It feels absolutely smooth and soft and oh so pleasurable! I think I've gone on and on about my pink one. I triple love it and use is often, with and without Owen! He loves the feel of it inside me against his own awesome tool too. Eden Fantasys also has a Rewards Program ! You get points for things like rating items and adding items to your wish list and then those points are converted to a gift card to use for free toys!! Who doesn't love free toys??? I'm ready for some new silicone ones and I've had my eye on some new dress u...

I’m a mix of emotions right now! Things with Peabody are as good as ever and tonight we head off for a three day music festival in the mountains which will be awesome and beautiful and I’m excited about that. At the same time Gwyn is about to take off from Hawaii to come here for a family emergency and I hate that I’m going to not be here when she lands.  Damn life!  Why does everything have to happen at one time! Aside from that, I have to say it’s freaking so nice to have an ex-husband that you can get along with.  There has been more than one time in the last few weeks when I needed Duckie to pick up the kids or switch things around and it’s always no big deal. Even today is an example. It’s Ladybug’s open house tonight and instead of us both driving they are just going to swing by and pick me up and we’ll all ride together. Divorced parents who spend so much time hating each other and not being able to get along for the kids sake need to get over themselves....

I had one of the most sexually satisfying encounters ever Monday night. It was insanely good. I've read about Tantric sex, seen ads online for it, but had not experienced it until last night with GD. I decided after Sunday night's chastity, that he had me worked up. He had already asked to see me Monday night, so I knew I'd end up having sex with him. I did not know that it was going to last for almost 4 hours and be that freaking awesome. I walked in and he just took me into his arms (he's 6'2") and wrapped me up and started kissing me. Eventually I told him that the clothes could come off tonight and he practically ripped off mine after that invitation. At this point, I was completely amazed at what he put against my body. He has an awesome cock...I mean awesome. It's really long and pretty thick. He had me on his bed and proceeded to tease me endlessly. I swear there were times where it felt like we totally melted into one. We breathed the same breath ...

1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure? Pleasure!! - Jules I think they are very closely tied. There's a very fine line! - Miranda Pleasure! Pain is for working out and when people die. -Gwyn 2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where? No, I do not like being tickled before, during, or after sex. I am not a fan. -Jules I'm not ticklish so it wouldn't feel like anything other than random poking.  I used to be incredibly ticklish and then in high school I made the executive decision to not be anymore and I just wasn't. True story.  Though when I find out someone else is ticklish it's incredibly hard not to torture them. - Miranda No not at all. -Gwyn 3. Have you ever used feathers during sex? I had a guy tie me up once and use them. I thought it was kind of stupid. - Jules Am I a bird?  - Miranda Feathers? Really? There must be a lot of people out there who need extra stimulation of all sorts...I am blessed to be perfectly conte...

Things are getting interesting around here again. I've been on OK Cupid and POF lately checking things out. I met a Dr. on OK Cupid!! He's a psychiatrist to be specific...lmao. We've chatted online for about a week and he asked for my phone number this weekend. He went to Kauai this past weekend to visit family. We were supposed to meet after work today for a drink, but he called about 45 minutes later than expected and I assumed he had just stood me up. He explained he'd gotten held up at work by a colleague, but at that point I was on the H1 and I'm not turning around on that thing for anyone. It was probably a mistake. He's HOT from his pics, he's smart, and he seems funny. Here's a hmmm moment about him. He's leaving in a few days to go to Burning Man for 2 weeks. Russell and I have a friend that goes to that annually...in a tutu with his unicycle. I'm thinking the Dr. may well be a freak. At any rate, I may be interested in seeing him when h...

Well nothing is resolved with my sister. I’m debating whether or not to even say anything.   I don’t know that it truly matters and really at some point we all have to accept that our family is the way it is and there’s nothing we can do about it.   But that’s not the point of this post. This is a fun post! Peabody is just getting better and better.   He seems to have mastered the art of communication that is just enough without being over the top and we continue to have better and better conversations. Last night we talked for several hours and had yet another in-depth conversation that is really giving me a lot of insight in him. Last night he also said he had all sorts of free miles from the airlines for all the traveling he does with work and that he’d love to take me somewhere in a couple weeks.   Peabody suggested Portland, Maine because he’s been there a couple times and has been wanting to go back. Between all his travel perks the trip would be es...

I need a little bitch session.  I’m about to throat punch my sister.  My sister is six years older to me and she and her husband are very wealthy - like they just finished building a mega-mansion wealthy.  And I don’t begrudge them for any of that.  Her husband has worked all of his adult life on building his own insurance business and he’s very good at what he does.  My sister worked for the early part of their marriage but the last 11 years she’s been a stay at home mom and a realtor on the side.  Outside of doing realtor stuff for family and friends she mostly does it for their own benefit because they are also house flippers.   They honestly have enough money they would wipe their asses with $20 bills and not even notice.   When Duckie and I first moved back here she was wonderful helping watch the kids from time to time during the summer and stuff but then it shifted and my dad was always the kid watcher.  After he passed away an...

That man rocks the fuck out of my world! I mean he does to me things that no man has ever done. Sure he does things other men could do, but the way he does it drives me wild. This morning was no exception!! We've been texting for a few days about seeing each other today. I suggested he cum over and tie up his sexy school girl this morning and he was on it. Actually, initially I told him I thought I owed him one for Friday night's awesome midnight rendezvous, but he likes being told what I want. It's this weird dichotomy in that he likes being told what I want, but I like being submissive in bed. He came in this morning to me in my school girl dress with my (and his) favorite glass toy in my ass. I knew how he wanted it today, so I was prepping for him. I had porn on with his favorite position happening for an added touch. He kissed me and started rubbing against me and then he laid me down and did DP with him and that toy. OMG love that! He kept that up until I had cum a ...

So, I have a rat in my house...or maybe a ghost. I'm not sure yet. The last few nights I've been hearing noises, but last night scared the crap out of me. I was laying in bed watching Hot in Cleveland (a seriously stupid, but hilarious show with Betty White...she makes it) when I heard a scratching and a thumping against my door that sounded like it was coming from something about the size of a pit bull. (I will inject here that we are a pet free household.) Then it moved along the wall and it sounded like it went into the bathroom beside the living room. I lay there paralyzed in what I can only describe as fear for about 5 minutes. My mind was racing that I had to get to Chloe to get her out of her unattended bed and into mine ASAP so that rat/ghost did not kill her in her sleep. I finally pry myself off the bed out of sheer maternal will and as I walk (naked) into the living room to go get her, I see Russell leaving his room, much to my relief! I knew he had been sleeping a...

I have been a busy girl. My first official date with the new guy last Monday was great!  I’ve finally decided to call him Peabody and there’s a long story behind that but it’s a nickname his friends gave him at some point. Nothing else seems to fit for the purposes of the blog. Last Monday I went over to his house (remember it’s in Duckie’s neighborhood – I can actually see the top of Duckie’s house from Peabody’s front porch) and he cooked an awesome dinner of fajitas.  We listened to music for a good while and just talked and hung out.  I’m finding him to be a really good mix of a person. There’s this whole high powered businessman side of him but there’s still very much a laid back, hanging out and easy side too.  We easily go from talking about work to music to our kids with a lot of laughs in between.  And honestly, I don’t know if it’s from my disasterous relationship with The Christian or if it’s just Peabody but I find it incredibly easy to just be...

Owen texted me about 11:30pm and asked if I wanted to meet him on the beach. I was a little drunk and confused. I was like 'what?' 'now??'. He said "yes". I said I'd be right there! We never ever have sex in the middle of the night, which is kind of a shame b/c I love sex before sleep. It seems he had left something at work and saw this as the perfect opportunity to see me as well. He pulled me to him and kissed me while undressing me. Then he bent me over and proceeded to pound me over and over again. It was delicious! He kept pulling me back into him and kissing me and talking dirty to me...I was soooo turned on by him. He always knows just what I need. As I was dressing, I noticed he was playing 1950-60s love songs on his phone (think Back to the Future prom). I stifled a chuckle. -Jules

Here’s the low down on everything that happened with The Chilean. I was supposed to have dinner with a friend of mine that Gwyn calls The Unicorn on Saturday night. She bailed at the last minute and I decided to contact him and see if he wanted to hang out during “normal hours”. He did. I picked him up and we went to Target, where he did buy me some things b/c I left my wallet in the car…had I known now how it was going to end I would have done way more shopping! Then we left and walked around some and decided to just grab a pizza on the way home. We ate our dinner and headed back to his apt where I laid all coy on the bed b/c we had had some hot sex the night before. We start talking about us and he asks me what I want from him. I tell him that it’s way to soon to qualify this, but eventually I see us being bf-gf. Then he drops the bomb that he has a long distance relationship with another woman. He tells me how dissatisfied he is with it b/c he wants someone with him, blah, blah....

No thank you...I'm done being the other woman. I'll still do it with Owen b/c it's the best sex ever...but anyone else can fuck off if they think I'm going down that path. The Chilean announced that he has a long distance gf and that's why he's been acting weird. I told him to kiss my ass. I unfriended him on FB, deleted his number from my cell, and told him to take a long ass hike off a short pier but I am sad b/c I thought there might actually be something there. What a MF! -Jules

I have a serious gay crush on Dan Savage.  I want him to be my gay BFF so bad.  I'm totally fangirly by listening to podcasts, reading his column online, and hell I've even watched his show on MTV.  I stumbled upon this little gem today and thought it was too good not to share. Miranda

Why is it so much more fun to write for the blog than to write for work?  That’s a total rhetorical question by the way but honestly some days I would rather pull my finger nails out then write for work. If only writing this blog could turn some bucks for us!  I guess we'll just have to wait until we sell the movie rights. A lot has happened in the last couple of weeks!  The Christian has been completely absent. Not a peep from him thankfully.  I found out that Coach is only out of town on a contract job. But it’s for three months so at least I have a few months to not worry about running into him and hope against hope it could turn into a full time position and I could be free of his presence forever.  Let’s all keep our fingers crossed for that.  Last week I went out with my friend D one night and honestly it was kind of miserable lol. I’m just over that scene. Going out every once in a while is fun but doing it every week is not my thing a...

I had one of those days yesterday where you are just truly, insanely happy and the world seems to just be going your way. I mean it was just awesome...lol. It started with a hike with Russell where we discussed his possible 3 month relo to China(!). I am extremely apprehensive about him going, but it would be a great move career wise and it's short term, so ok whatever. I just don't trust that he won't do something to get himself shot. Anyway, great hike and we found some really cool stuff along the way. After our hike, he went to work and Owen came over to have me for lunch. In the brief interim though, I got called for a job interview that is in the next town up and would cut my current commute time down by 45 minutes and it's in my field!! Anyway, back to Owen...he came in and pleasured me like crazy. He climbed on top of me and kissed me and then worked his way down my body. Once I'd cum, he moved back up and entered me pressing his hot body against me. Final...

Aloha blogging world!! I've been gone awhile but Miranda's recent visit brought up an old memory that is too good not to share. In September of last year, Miranda accompanied me on my journey to move to Hawaii. I'm not sure what night it was but towards the beginning of the trip the three of us (myself, Jules and Miranda) decided to take a trip to the local 'bar'. I put that word in quotes because by bar I mean the Hawaiian version of a sports bar that doubles as a karaoke hotspot for obese old people with bad fashion choices. Well, we made the best of the situation and consumed enough alcohol to tolerate the lameness. This was also the night where I heard the pickup line that may have landed the #1 spot on my list - "I have a red Corvette and a six pack" - to which I replied, "And I have a boyfriend". Anyways, after we got good and drunk we made a quick pit stop at the local Seven Eleven to pick up the essentials - doritos, spam masubi, more d...

After deciding that I was over The Chilean's bullshit, I did my normal thing. I texted Owen to come fuck the shit out of me because after you have sex with him, you can hardly remember your own name much less give a crap about anyone else. It worked like a charm and I've moved into total ambivalence about The Chilean. If he can get on board with the program, fine. If not, let's not let the door hit him in the ass on the way out. Owen lived up to his end of the bargain today and brought it this morning. We had some hot, sweaty, dirty sex!! It felt amazing and I'm so glad he's back on the island!!! I've also reactivated my ok cupid account and I'm currently totally cougaring out. I don't know if that's a word, but it is now. If bootylicious or however you spell that is a word, I say cougaring out can be too. Anyway, this 22 year old kid messaged me last night almost as soon as I reactivated my acct. I was ready to just delete it because I don't...