Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

A Song For You Answer the following questions using only song titles. Make sure you link to the song or the song’s lyrics so that we can listen to or read the song. 1. What is your present state of mind? You Can't Always Get What You Want , but I've got a  Good Feeling - Jules I Wanna Be Rich - Gwyn These Boots are Made for Walking - Miranda 2. How do you feel about your spouse, significant other, or someone you lust for? Closer makes me think of Owen.   Russell says Alcoholic is "our" song, but not in the way he means it. :)          -  Jules Hahahah to you and Russell's song Jules! This is the song that always makes me think of McDreamy. - Gwyn  Well right now I don't really have any of those.  I suppose this is the the song I think of most often when I think of Coach - The Best Thing About You Was Your Dick . - Miranda 3. Describe your job. Trouble Me - Jules Making money is no walk in the park. This is my ...

It’s not great secret that Miranda likes to imagine scenes from her life in a movie. There’s been more than one dramatic speech (that’s flopped) or a well swept exit from a room (that no one noticed) or a scintillating sexual escapade (that I’m sure looks better in life than on film) that I’ve lived. However I never realized I’d psychoanalyze myself thanks to a classic 1980s movie. Urban Cowboy is one of my all time favorite movies. The romanticism of down home cowboy Bud sweeping trailer trash Sissy off her feet. Their fiery love story. Fighting. Making Up. A wedding in a light blue tuxedo with a ruffled shirt. Cowboy hats and boots galore. Mechanical bull riding. If you haven’t seen this movie I don’t know what rock you’ve been living under but you must see it immediately. I insist. If you haven’t, so much of the humor in this post is going to be lost on you…. Anyways, the story is about this country redneck couple in Texas who meet, fall in love, get married, get jealous, break u...

Owen has really been one hot sex god this week despite his shoulder being operated on Monday! He came over Wednesday for some really great sex that I told you guys about, but unfortunately about half way in his pain meds (which he apparently had doubled up on!) kicked in and he was done. Yesterday he came over for a quickie on the way to pick up his kids from school. It was spontaneous and just timing wise perfect. Today he came back for lunch! He's getting better each day (from the surgery) and it's evident in his performance!! He pinned me down and gave it to me today like I love it and finished in his favorite way...my ass. His wife comes home tonight and Russell returns tonight as well, so our fairly unlimited, house available, free time will go back to normal next week but this week was a 4 in 1 week and it was epic! I dare to overshare though and tell you all that I think he bruised me. We've done a lot of toy play lately with DP and DV and I think he may have cause...

So this month of grounding (still have a week to go dammit) has been interesting. Sometimes painful, sometimes peaceful, and full of hard work. Basically it’s required me by and large to change all my patterns. I certainly haven’t been perfect and I’ve bent (ok broken) the rules once or twice but by and large I’ve stuck to it and I am really starting to feel clearer about my feelings, emotions, and motivations but I still have a long way to go. You know growing up I always heard people say it takes three weeks to form a habit but a quick Google search shows that psychologists now say it takes closer to 66 days. So if I really want to continue down this path of self revision and discovery I need to extend my grounding for another month. That’s a long ass time! It’s funny. As I’ve been nursing my boss through her break up it’s given me something else to focus on and I’ve been more open with her about things I’ve learned over the last two years. I’ve also seen her on the brink of dev...

I started off the morning by peeing on a stick. I've been feeling odd lately. Last week, I threw up and was sick one night very randomly. I think it was the meat I'd eaten...blech. Then this week, my uterus has felt like it was going to fall out it hurt so bad and I was feeling dizzy and had no energy.  I don't have a period anymore b/c of the way I take my birth control pills, but I've been on an antibiotic for eons and that makes the pill ineffective. So,Gwyn convinced me to take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. I'm extremely giddy to report that it was negative!!! That would have been an awkward convo... The morning improved immediately by this result and by a text from Owen saying that yes, 2 days after shoulder surgery, he was coming over for sex. He is a freaking sex god. He comes over and we play around and have amazing, sex despite his arm being in a sling. He can't lay down without being in pain, but he can bend me over and fuck me like...

I've been gone from the blogosphere for awhile, busy establishing myself here in Hawaii. But I wanted to take a moment to let you all know that I hate my boyfriends sister. I thought if there was going to be anyone in his family I'd have an issue with it would surely be his mother. I mean I've heard plenty of mother in law horror stories (no I'm not engaged). But apparently everyone failed to mention the disaster that can only be described as the 20 year old spoiled brat control freak know it all bitch little sister. Luckily my saintly mother gave me some great advice about how to handle the little monster of a human being. She told me to be nice no matter what and not to complain to my boyfriend about his sister because, after all, it is his sister and I shouldnt put him in the position of having to defend her. She advised that he would notice if she was unfriendly and to let him address it with her on his own (which she was and he did). My dad had 9 brothers and s...

Whoo hoo! It's my turn to be our Eden Fantasys Blogger! I want a Rabbit Vibrator. I always have. I don’t know if it’s because a friend of a friend in college had one and talked about how amazing her “Pearl Rabbit” was or if it’s because of that darn episode of Sex and the City where they talked about the magic Rabbit but it's become the sex toy of my dreams. I just want one dammit! Honestly I’m sort of confused about what to do with it. Well not what to “do with it” because that much is obvious but for me, solo play is a solely outside activity if you get my drift.  So my mind is all a twitter at thoughts of using a Rabbit.  For years I didn’t understand what the big deal with vibrators was but then I got one as a joke in one of those mystery grab bags.  It was a basic white bullet and I used it a few times in secret (Duckie would have died) and really liked it.  But it was much easier to take care of my own lady business when he was sleeping next to me than f...

While Chloe has been at her Auntie's house this week, Jules has been getting it on! Sunday night, I was texting with Owen's potential sub and realized that he was a tool. When I told him to bring condoms, he informed me that he doesn't wear them. I informed him that he wouldn't be fucking me then. He told me he doesn't like rules and that I'm probably not the girl for him...um yeah, that's what I said....idiot. So I spent the night sexting with Owen, which was a continuation of a day long sext a thon and we exchanged lots of pics and videos. Lord jesus that man makes me HOT! In the midst of that, I stumbled onto The Grown Up who was going to be in town from a neighbor island this week. Monday, I had omg hot sex with Owen over lunch. He started the day off telling me how he'd just watched the videos again and he wanted to lick my kitty and play with my ass...well what is a girl to say to that, but yes sir...what time can you get to my house?! He came in...

So my grounding was going well until Friday. Apparently I was possessed by the spirit of Jules and had an almost insatiable need to get laid. I’m not sure where exactly that came from. Maybe I was hit with a superhuman level of hormones or maybe I was channeling all my suppressed anger but I wanted it. Bad. Bad enough to do a total sober booty call to Kansas. As Gwyn and Jules said, “yes the very Kansas I told off a couple weeks ago for not wanting more of a relationship.” He quite readily complied and we hung out for a while at my house and drank a couple beers. Then we got it on – big time. And I mean that both metaphorically and in reality. The man is hung like a Clydesdale. Even bigger than I remember it being before. And he may be a gimp but he damn sure knows what to do in the bedroom. After a couple hours of fooling around and having sex we fell asleep only to awaken an hour later and go at it again. Then we said goodnight, he went home, and I rolled over and passed out in ...

I haven't blogged much lately, b/c there isn't much to blog about. Gavin called me last weekend to tell me that he was coming to the island to visit his son this weekend. He asked me if I wanted to have lunch and then I haven't heard from him since. I have no idea if he came or not and I'm thankful that he didn't contact me again b/c I really don't like who I am around him. It's one thing to have your friends (all of them!), your mother, and your ex husband tell you what a loser he is, but when fellow bloggers who have actually never met him (Ethan) tell you for whatever reason it really hits home. So, bullet dodged...thank you universe. Owen and I have been having awesome sex. I saw him twice last week and I'm hoping for a few times this week, although that may be hard b/c the kids are out of school here and while mine will be at her auntie's house, his will be home. He's having shoulder surgery next Monday, so that will result in probably 2-3...

So yesterday I mentioned that my boss’s asshat boyfriend was likely to break up with her. Little did I know how prophetic that was going to be. He’s been doing the classic withdrawal that guys tend to do over the last week since he hit on me. Started by backing down the texts, started not going over to her house as much, etc. Friday he had his kid and he asked her if she’d keep him while he went out with some friends. She for whatever reason said sure and he ended up going out to see one of the band’s I’m friends with. All seemed fine and he went to her house afterwards and they had a decent weekend though she said he was definitely more reserved than usual. I thought so too when I was at her house over the weekend. This week comes and the withdrawal is more pronounced to the point that it had watered down to just a couple texts a day and he didn’t go over to her house at all. She asked him a couple times what was going on and he said he was just stressed or busy with work and not...

It’s been the week of the Boomerang Boy. For those who aren’t familiar with this very special term of ours it means a guy you throw away and he keeps coming back. In the last week I’ve had three different boomerage boys return for more. The Landscaper, who I told off a couple weeks ago, started texting me again. I didn’t answer any of them so then he started emailing me. Friday night he texted me late about 11 and asked what I was doing. I was a little agitated (damn the repressed anger) and responded with a, “WTF do you think I’m doing?” The Landscaper sent some random chatty texts after that and I told him there was no point in continuing to text. He asked why and I said because all he wants was to get laid and that wasn’t going to happen with me again. He denied that and said he really wanted to spend time with me and get to know me better and I told him good luck with that. Haven’t heard from him since. Kansas, who I told him off the same weekend I told the Landscaper off, has...

This week’s TMI Tuesday consist of questions pulled from various  TMI Tuesday  posts from the year 2010.  If you played with us back then and already answered these questions, feel free to reproduce your answers. It’s fine, there are a lot of new TMI Tuesday players. Of course, things have changed over time so you could give all new answers to the questions, too. __________________ The link after the question, is the URL of the blogger that created that TMI Tuesday question(s). November 23, 2010  –  Have you ever shared sleeping accommodations with someone of the opposite sex without anything steamy happening?  ( http://www.playfullyyours.blogspot.com/ ) Uh yeah, I slept with Russell for almost 10 years...haha. I actually slept with Gavin one night when our kids were here and Russell was home and we didn't have sex that night. -Jules Aside from Duckie, likely not. I mean there were probably a few times that Coach and I just slept in the bed but I'm sure w...

Miranda’s been doing a lot of decompressing lately but it’s all good. I’m feeling in a much much much better place today than I was a week ago. No contact with Coach has been freaking freeing! And I find that every day he’s less in my mind which is nothing but good for me. Last week it was easy to be distracted with the kids and all but now that I’m at the start of a childfree week, I’m still confident it will keep going well. A couple random things…last week my boss’s boyfriend totally hit on me and made me feel icky and gross. The weekend before I’d been out with them and we all danced together and a couple times she took a break from the dance floor we kept dancing. All very appropriate. The “we’re not together” zone was never breached. Until the end of the night that is. She’d gone to the bathroom and he pulled me on the dance floor again and totally got all up in my business! I pulled back and he laughed and pulled me in close again and I pulled right back and danced my way off...

Friday was a big day of whoring it up for Jules. Gwyn's bff is here visiting and Thursday night we sat up wayyyy too late drinking red wine and I was actually hungover like crazy on Friday. Friday night was a scheduled Girl's Night Out and I almost bailed I was that hungover. We can thank Owen for letting me sweat out some of the toxins though and getting it together enough to go! I met Owen for a quickie lunch on Friday. I was kind of bitchy because it took him forever to meet me (timing wise) and because of the hangover. I apologized later though b/c as usual he made me cum sooooooo many times that I couldn't not forgive his poor time management. I can't wait to see him for a longer time period one day next week. Back to Girl's Night Out and the whoring it up part...Gwyn, her bff, another friend, and I went out in Waikiki last night. After taking a mid evening nap and downing some caffeine, I was ready to go. We started drinking shots at 8pm and continued for ...