Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?

It seems last night was the annual hookup with the neighbor that seems to happen every June/July. This is what I woke up to this morning out in my living room. It seems like this was a good year. -Jules

This time tomorrow I will be fast on my way to see my girls Gwyn and Jules! I just got to see Jules a few weeks ago but it still feels like I haven't spent any real time with her in ages.  And I feel like Gwyn is in another universe and I can't actually believe I'll finally get to see her tomorrow! You cannot imagine how weird it is to see someone almost every day of your life and then suddenly you don't see them for 10 months!  AHHHHH!  I cannot wait to see them and show my kids and mom the total awesomeness of Hawaii! Miranda

Life is clearly way too busy for me not to find time to post.  Things with The Christian have been up and down a bit.  He’s a person of strong convictions and at times when we talk he’s very adamant that his way of thinking is right. After 50,000 hours of conversation he’ll see the light and either change his opinion or he’ll finally let it go and agree to disagree.  I’ve rarely been with a man who was such a thinker/talker.  As much as I love our ability to conversate sometimes I want to tell him to shut up lol.  I think his tendency to obsessively talk about some things is linked to his OCD-ness.  Over the last couple weeks I’ve been through some big drama with my boss (her drama not mine) but she’s come out the other side quite well. And most interesting is that the connection between Kansas and she had grown by leaps and bounds.  He’s practically living with her, they sleep in the same bed every night, but they’ve only kissed so far.  As...

Good Ol’ Summertime TMI Tuesday questions submitted by  Andee . 1. Summer is a time to escape, kick back and chill. What is your favourite way to relax when the warm weather hits? Go to the beach and I'm lucky enough to live in a place where it's always summer. -Jules Now that I'm in Hawaii, like Jules said, it's always summer. I find time every day to escape, kick back and chill - and let me tell you it does wonders for my mental health! Before moving here I used to try and take at least one trip to the beach every summer, usually to Charleston or Myrtle Beach. -Gwyn The beach if Hawaii is not possible but my general weekend plan is to hit the pool as much as possible until I'm tan as a Puerto Rician. - Miranda 2. Have you ever been to a drive-in movie theatre? My first date was to a drive-in movie, what is your best memory of these classic outdoor  theaters ? I'm old, but damn...no never been to a drive in. - Jules Nope, never been. -Gwyn ...

This one was too good not to share! I was literally just standing in my kitchen laughing out loud to myself over it. I have an online profile with OK Cupid. I decided to try them after POF turned out to be a fat bunch of losers...seems OK Cupid is too, but I can't close my account b/c then I would miss these gems. Today at work I received the following message. It read " you have an intriguing profile, a beautiful picture and amazing feet...". I have one picture on my profile on that site and it's a picture of me sitting on the floor. Yes, I am barefoot but in no way are they a prominent part of this picture. Of course my job blocks this site, so I had to wait until I got home tonight to see who had emailed me this crazy message. Although I did laugh with the girls over it at the time. I am very anti foot fetish. I had a guy suck my toes once during sex and it was the weirdest, grossest thing ever. Ok, maybe not ever but it was disgusting.  So, tonight I come home...

You say it’s your birthday ( Birthday TMI questions suggested by  Heelsnstocking ) This TMI is perfect since Miranda's birthday was yesterday! Happy Birthday, Miranda!!!  1. What star sign are you? Aries (couldn't you guess?) - Jules Libra -Gwyn Gemini - Miranda 2. Do you believe in horoscopes? To an extent, yes. I think people are definitely more compatible when they are born under certain signs. The very 1st day I met Gavin, he had the Secret Language of Birthdays book on his kitchen table. I walked in and as we talked, I flipped through it and told him immediately upon hearing he was a Capricorn that we'd never work out...lol. - Jules Totally. I think the planets and the stars and how they are aligned definitely affects us. Ever since I moved to HI I've become an avid stargazer and I love trying to find all the zodiac signs in the sky! I'm also a huge nerd lol. -Gwyn I agree with both of the girls. I think people born under...

So here we are again with a whole week going past since I last posted. I’m seriously slacking. That or just too busy actually living instead of being wrapped up in my head lol. A lot has happened so here’s the cliff’s notes version. I had an amazing weekend with The Christian.   Friday night I took a big leap of faith and went and had dinner with him and his sons.  I was nervous walking in to it.  It’s a big step but one that I wanted to take and one that felt oddly natural so early on. Dinner went great.  His boys were funny, polite, charming kids and after he bundled them off to bed, we had another great night of talking and growing closer and closer. I seriously don’t think I talked to Duckie this much in our entire 12 years of being together.  On my way home from his house I went through my second license check of the week! WTF?  I really think my dad is messing with me from the great beyond. Saturday The Christian had his boys spend ...

1. What’s the kinkiest thing about you, either mentally or physically?  Hmmm, I don't know. I guess it's the dichotomy that exists between my love of being submissive in bed and my total Type A personality outside of sex. I triple love that full feeling of DP, but is that really kinky?? I love being tied up too! - Jules Like Jules I really love being submissive in bed but I'm not as much of a control freak (and I use that term lovingly) in regular life.  I guess I like sex really agressive more often than sweet and tender.  - Miranda I would not describe myself as kinky in any way. I think most girls prefer 'aggressive' sex so I don't think that makes me kinky. And you all know how I feel about toys, or should I say what I don't feel about toys? -Gwyn 2. Do you have any  fetishes ? If so, what are they?  I know you guys thought this was weird, but when Clark used to tie up my tits and "milk" them was fucking hot. I love having my tits sucked...

Owen has been texting me for days trying to figure out a time when we could meet up. He's feeling the pressure of 6 weeks of no hot sex with me bearing down on him it seems. Friday night we had some super hot sexting and he asked me what Saturday looked like for me. I was unable to get away and told him that we were having a birthday party for Chloe. Saturday night, he texts me and asks me to come over after everyone went to sleep and we would play out in his yard...um hell no. I mean I am dreading a 6 week Owen drought just as much as he is, but I'm not about to drive to his house and fuck him outside while his family is inside. Good Lord....clearly he had lost his mind. I told him I had a house full of people because Chloe's party was still going on and that I'd have to take a rain check on that offer (as in like a never going to happen check). He texted me again this morning to tell me that he could get out around lunch time if I was free. As it happened, I could w...