tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post7891930051394037565..comments2023-09-03T04:34:29.383-04:00Comments on Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?: I Thought I Was Too Young for a Midlife CrisisInfidelity Chronicleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05644195667158141992noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post-10573864071665979732010-06-04T11:40:42.302-04:002010-06-04T11:40:42.302-04:00Thanks for the support Diner Nighthawk, I knew I w...Thanks for the support Diner Nighthawk, I knew I wasn't the only one! I'm also glad to know there is a name for this phenomenon. <br /><br />One of my good friends recently went to eat dinner with two of our other friends who are both currently pregnant - one is married and it's her first baby one is having her 2nd child with her boyfriend. After the dinner, my single friend called to tell me never to get pregnant and/or married (she is currently getting divorced after less than a year of marriage to an OLD man). <br /><br />Sooooo, I guess all that's left for me to do is to get 15 cats and become a recluse. I can't get married. I can't get pregnant, married or not. And being single isn't the greatest either. OMG here I go again..... <br /><br />-GwynInfidelity Chronicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05644195667158141992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post-21510927173423281902010-06-02T15:42:12.177-04:002010-06-02T15:42:12.177-04:00I think it's pretty understandable to feel tha...I think it's pretty understandable to feel that way. Hell, look at the marriages or past marriages of everyone in this little wing of the blogosphere! I get a chill down my spine when "friends" tell me that my marriage gives them hope... because my marriage is a fucking mess!<br /><br />BUT. As someone with the 30-Year mark peaking over the horizon myself, I do spend a lot of time reminding myself that this is only the beginning of the story. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and I'm trying to make it all work, but if something were to happen there is the comfort of knowing that most of the happy marriages I DO see out there are SECOND marriages that started in the couple's mid-to-late thirties. And the happier childhoods I've seen were from kids who had older parents - parents who had their kids later in life and had both the financial discipline and emotional maturity to do it right.<br /><br />BTW, I thikn the term you're looking for is "Quarter Life Crisis." There's even a whole Wikipedia entry on the phenomenon!Ethan Lamberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18005642810763475029noreply@blogger.com