tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post6271007335622845817..comments2023-09-03T04:34:29.383-04:00Comments on Dating After 40: Do Any of Us Really Know What We Are Doing?: Flipping the EquationInfidelity Chronicleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05644195667158141992noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post-50157121771959947232011-12-07T20:51:56.603-05:002011-12-07T20:51:56.603-05:00Thanks Elle! I consider that a compliment because ...Thanks Elle! I consider that a compliment because I love your blog and find you unbearably amusing! No more ms fix it for us!Mirandahttp://www.infidelitychronicles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post-18678042626201060962011-12-07T07:44:08.063-05:002011-12-07T07:44:08.063-05:00Holy Balls, Woman! It's now confirmed that you...Holy Balls, Woman! It's now confirmed that you and I are in fact the same person. You actually took the words out of my mouth. I always talk about becoming the <a href="http://sloppy2.blogspot.com/2010/05/i-dont-want-to-be-your-psychologist-or_17.html" rel="nofollow">psychologist or the mother</a>. (I don't mean to blog spam you but that was from May 2010, so I highly doubt you've read it... and the similarities are UNCANNY!)<br /><br />Since my last major relationship, where I literally had the life sucked out of me in saving someone else's, I've put effort into avoiding this "type" of man. But, like you say, it's as if they have a sixth sense about my inner therapist. I also have to admit that I am always drawn to the fixer uppers (although I no longer act on the draw).<br /><br />Good luck! And I LOVE this post!Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12680605959729330976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4688991328169502026.post-33265574721777583082011-12-06T12:32:56.794-05:002011-12-06T12:32:56.794-05:00Interesting analysis - I certainly think you'r...Interesting analysis - I certainly think you're on to something here. I think it's usually toughest to really step back and be able to analyze ourselves too, so I applaud you for that. One thing in particular in this post really resonated with me - your comment about finding someone who can help elevate you to being a better version of yourself. I recently said almost the exact same thing to my friend, Holly. I told her that one of the main things I love about her and is that I truly feel she brings out the best in me. I think the deep love we share allows me to be the best version of myself (and I like to think I do the same for her). That really is a tremendously special, powerful thing and I encourage you to keep looking for it.<br /><br />I wish I had some solid advice for you on exactly how to find it, but I'm afraid I don't. In our case, it's not something that was an "at first sight" kind of thing for either Holly or me, but rather something that developed over time. So, I guess my advice would be: Keep looking, but stay true to your principles. Don't let yourself backslide and get involved with those fixer-upper boys too much and eventually, the right one will come along. Also, have patience, if you think you see potential in someone, give it time and see if it grows. Hell, Holly gave me all sorts of chances when I tried to screw it up early on. <br /><br />In any case, I wish you luck my friend, but I think you'll need less luck now that you've come to this important realization.Adamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02599085359106039024noreply@blogger.com